Tears For A PRC Prostitute

[colins]

Originally Posted by justl00king

Well said...if they stil hanging around you, means they can't resist your tongue-fu or your big stick.

hahaha...just make sure they dun take any one of those back to China when they leave!

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by justl00king

Well said...if they stil hanging around you, means they can't resist your tongue-fu or your big stick.

Errhhh... I dun know about this.

I always rationalise that the only time a WL (who is working) will really want Sex is after her period or at the start of the day

Else, so many people to satisfy her, she also get tired or number of being high.

So, I appreciate it when those that I know insist that I come for the 1st shot of the day and even more if I come for the 1st shot after her period..

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

She(my 3rd mistress) sees where this is leading to now & what you'll do next. You're so entrapped and is willing to give the whole episode a benefit of a doubt and go see her. This will seal you fate!

Actually, i dun mean to look down on ya or anything, but my mistresses and me thinks you'll go see her. No offense hor

Bro, both you and your mistress are quite right. Last night, I did harbour thoughts of giving the matter the benefit of a doubt and pay her a visit next month. I certainly do not take any offence at your thinking that I will visit her. Deep down inside, I really want to.

However, after a long sleep last night, and after reading the numerous posts by all the concerned bros here, I have decided that I should heed your advice and not visit her. Although I have made that decision today, I hope that I can have the strength and resolve to stand by that decision.

On her answer whether her feeling was 爱 or 喜欢, like bro XYZ1001, I too recognised that it was a politically correct answer. Similarly, immediately after receiving the last sms from her addressing me as 老公 the thought that this was a tactical move on her part also registered in my mind.

Originally Posted by colins

Bro, there is not absolute truth in this world. Truth or lies, genuine feelings or not, the judge is in you. If you alone believe it, it is the greatest truth in this world. If you dun, no matter how much bros here say, you can't get your satisfaction. The only question is, like bro xyz said, how much help it will give you when you find that out.

Somehow, I believe that the reason why you want to know the answer to her feelings for you, is to give you some satisfaction that you've done well, that your feelings for her was worth it. In other words, its man's pride. In this relationship, you have given her a lot of your emotions and real feelings, it is normal to want to know the 'result' of your effort.

Bingo. I think you hit the nail squarely on its head again bro.

After reviewing all the available evidence once again this morning, hopefully from a more objective perspective, I think on a balance of probability, this was probably a KC trap. She probably likes being with me because I treat her very well (apart from the fact that I think I am probably the single biggest source of income for her during her stay in Singapore, no kidding) but the evidence suggest that it was just that and nothing more.

All her actions which I described earlier could be interpreted in two ways; either it was part of her KC strategy, or it was an indication of her feeling for me. But when viewed in the context of all the objective fact and information I have, again on a balance of probability, I think they are part of her KC strategy.

The relationship while intense on my part lasted about a month and a half. Looking at things from her perspective, it was unlikely that she would have harboured any feelings for me at least in the first half of that relationship. I was probably just another customer who treated her well. Before she left, I think perhaps there was a chance that she might have felt something for me but certainly not on the same scale as what I felt about her.

Based on the information I have, there were quite a number of nights when she would speak with someone over the phone in her native dialect. Based on the tone and volume, it would appear that she was quarrelling with that person over the phone.

She has a page in one of those Chinese equivalent of facebook. On her profile, on her wishlist, she said that she hoped to be able to marry that person that she liked. She had postings there in 2007 asking a rhetorical question how to capture and retain a man's heart. Based on this, I have reasons to believe that there is already someone else in her heart and that person is not me. Very possibly that person broke her heart very badly which contributed to her decision to work in this industry. Very possibly that person whom she was quarrelling with over the phone could have been her bf in China. Very possibly the reason for her early departure was to go back to see her bf to settle their dispute.

We spent the whole of Tuesday in Sentosa. There were no mention then about her wanting to go home early. I would also add that her menses started on Tuesday night which was behind schedule by a few days. She was initially scheduled to go back on 3 Sep. That meant that she would have been unable to work for most of the remaining period of her stay in Singapore had she kept to her original schedule.

On Wednesday when I met her for lunch. She broke the "news" to me that she wanted to go back as soon as possible as her mum was supposed to go for a minor operation. Immediately after lunch on Wednesday I changed her flight from 3 Sep to 28 Aug.

Thinking back, since she was unable to work during this period of time, and this period being the last few days we could have spent quality time together, yet she opted to go home early, it would suggest that I do not hold a very significant place in her heart. Otherwise she would have taken this opportunity to spend more quality time with me instead. The excuse about mum needing to be hospitalised was pure bullshit.

Actually my decision to help her re-schedule her flight was also partly borne out of my own selfish interest. Even though I refused to admit it to myself, thinking back in retrospect, at the back of my mind I did recognised the evidence presented and saw the probability that I am being entrapped in a KC trap. Before the start of her menses, she lamented that when she came over to Singapore, she had set a particular revenue target and that she wanted to work hard in Singapore in order to meet that target. Me and my BIG mouth, I told her not to worry and do not push herself too hard and that it pains me to see her working. I told her that if there were any shortfall in her target, I will cover the shortfall.

At the time she went back, the declared shortfall was about SGD2K. Actually if she had stayed until her scheduled departure date of 3 Sep, I would have given her this sum of money. But because of her early departure, I did not give her the money. In my mind, the excuse I would have given to her if she asked for it was that given the sudden change of travel plans, it was too late for me to go to the bank to withdraw the money. Fortunately she did not ask or mentioned anything about the money during our last night together. In that sense, I saved SGD2K.

The writing is so clearly stated on the wall; that I should forget about her and move on with my life, and that I should not maintain any further contacts with her. Interestingly enough, even the okt told me to move on to greener pastures and that I should not try to develop anything further with her. He is quite a nice chap. He told me numerous times that the family should come first and that it was not worth it sacrificing family bliss in exchange for a WL. He actually asked me yesterday that assuming if I die now, do I actually believe that this girl will shed a tear for me?

I just hope that when the sms from her comes, as I am sure that it will, I will have the courage and strength to reply as suggested by bro DYBJ's mistress.

I think my head is a little more level today. My heartfelt appreciation to the bros who have offered assistance. Hopefully at the critical moment after her sms, the heart can listen to the head for once.

Thank you all.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by slider_72

1 On her answer whether her feeling was 爱 or 喜欢, like bro XYZ1001, I too recognised that it was a politically correct answer. Similarly, immediately after receiving the last sms from her addressing me as 老公 the thought that this was a tactical move on her part also registered in my mind.

2 He actually asked me yesterday that assuming if I die now, do I actually believe that this girl will shed a tear for me?

3 I just hope that when the sms from her comes, as I am sure that it will, I will have the courage and strength to reply as suggested by bro DYBJ's mistress.

Thank you all.

1. Bro.. think of it this way, if she said 爱, then it could be lying as true love needs time to develop. On the 老公 part, there are those who can call anyone that and those give more meaning to the words (i.e. They feel touched by what you do for them)

Only 3 WL that I am bothered with have called me this and I give a separate answer to each. (Btw, my ZH GF nvr called me this b4, we juz call each other Whey)
a. 26 y/o (okay looking lady) whom I RTF 5 x during her 1.5 mths stay. She said this to me on the 3rd round 'coz of how I treat her. (Btw, dun bother checking who coz I did not post FR). My answer was ... B4 I could answer, she told me forget it, if she call me 老公 now, it is too unreal. All she can say is that she is thankful for me treating her as a friend and not meat

b. 27 y/o (sweet looking) whom I RTF countless times over the last 8 mths I know her b4 she left for home. Called me 老公 after the 4th mth I met her but it was b'coz I took care of her loneliness. My answer : We are always good friends 'coz u know it is impossible

c. 23 y/o (sweet looking) whom I RTF countless times over the 3 months I know her.. called me 老公 after I was almost as nice to her as my ZH GF in terms of pampering her emotions. My answer :This comes with responsibilies so I will not accept. We are leaving things to fate.

Btw, none of them ask me for $$ so I know their KC with me was not for money

There are also those WLs who call me this on the 1st or 2nd this we meet, these we all know are shit-words so heck care them.

So the same words can mean different things when uttered from different persons of different ages during different stages in a r/s.

For my GF, her stand is always... She is not of sound mind here so she can only say that I treat her much better than her so called friends or BFs in PRC 'coz I care for her sincerely and unlike the BFs, dun juz treat her as a sex object to satisfy their desire for SEX (piad or otherwise).. I excuse her 'coz she is only 20 y/o...

2. Think about it. The human heart is not made of stone. When I go into deep talks with my ZH GF, she has also cried before. Not acting 'coz I can see only one tear before she re-composed herself as she felt I was really STUPID to do or care so much for a WL like her.. (Not worth it is how she takes it at that time)

3. SMS is fine. I never take words uttered in SMS seriously. But if she calls, beware when you pick up the call. Hearing her voice is way way worse... If your resolve is not strong, u will waver... it took me 4 mths to clear my head and call it off for the best of us.

Reason: Even if we are really in love and work hard to be together, can I satisfy her needs (Coz her plans of self-sufficiently never materialise so I know she will continue to live off different people, families, BFs etc) and so what if she really treats me as her 老公 in every aspect of life.

She cannot get used to life in SG, I cannot go PRC and leave my parents behind...So if she is serious, much worse for us to get deeper. Better to cut it when we can. Both may feel pain for a while but life will GO ON..

It is all in your hands so be strong, think of the rational side of life and future and make the logical decison that is best for both of you.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

1. Bro.. think of it this way, if she said 爱, then it could be lying as true love needs time to develop. On the 老公 part, there are those who can call anyone that and those give more meaning to the words (i.e. They feel touched by what you do for them)

That is true. Numerous WLs have addressed me by that term but meant nothing to me at all, especially when they call you by that term during bonking. I always saw that as part of the script. This is the only time it felt different to me.

Anyway, I spent the whole morning surfing the net and by chance came across a video montage of her and her bf in China. It was actually a compilation of some of her photos and a few photos of her bf. The title of her montage was "我的老公". The video montage was posted sometime in March last year. Call it fate or twisted irony, her bf in China and I share the same Chinese name. Sheesh. Looks like we have a few things in common.

After seeing the photo of her and her bf on the net, it felt like my heart stopped beating altogether. Well to be fair to her, I cannot confirm whether they are still together now as the video montage was posted about a year and a half ago. However, I have a strong suspicion that they are. Whatever the case may be, despite the hurt when I saw that montage, it has helped strengthened my resolve somewhat.

[aces68]

Originally Posted by slider_72

That is true. Numerous WLs have addressed me by that term but meant nothing to me at all, especially when they call you by that term during bonking. I always saw that as part of the script. This is the only time it felt different to me.

Anyway, I spent the whole morning surfing the net and by chance came across a video montage of her and her bf in China. It was actually a compilation of some of her photos and a few photos of her bf. The title of her montage was "我的老公". The video montage was posted sometime in March last year. Call it fate or twisted irony, her bf in China and I share the same Chinese name. Sheesh. Looks like we have a few things in common.

After seeing the photo of her and her bf on the net, it felt like my heart stopped beating altogether. Well to be fair to her, I cannot confirm whether they are still together now as the video montage was posted about a year and a half ago. However, I have a strong suspicion that they are. Whatever the case may be, despite the hurt when I saw that montage, it has helped strengthened my resolve somewhat.

bro, let it go. It doesn't work in the long run. Everytime I meet a nice FL, I also have some fantasy to be with her, but I quickly snapped out of my fantasy. You must do the same too. I also kena KC trap before, but luckily it was not so shiong like your case.

btw, what is a video montage ? U mean like in Youtube ?

[hunger_for_sex]

Originally Posted by slider_72

That is true. Numerous WLs have addressed me by that term but meant nothing to me at all, especially when they call you by that term during bonking. I always saw that as part of the script. This is the only time it felt different to me.

Anyway, I spent the whole morning surfing the net and by chance came across a video montage of her and her bf in China. It was actually a compilation of some of her photos and a few photos of her bf. The title of her montage was "我的老公". The video montage was posted sometime in March last year. Call it fate or twisted irony, her bf in China and I share the same Chinese name. Sheesh. Looks like we have a few things in common.

After seeing the photo of her and her bf on the net, it felt like my heart stopped beating altogether. Well to be fair to her, I cannot confirm whether they are still together now as the video montage was posted about a year and a half ago. However, I have a strong suspicion that they are. Whatever the case may be, despite the hurt when I saw that montage, it has helped strengthened my resolve somewhat.

really small world hai

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by aces68

btw, what is a video montage ? U mean like in Youtube ?

those personal short video clips of holidays/wedding/daily events plus pictures if any then combined together and throw in your favorite songs into Window Movie maker and you get a long video clip

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by slider_72

That is true. Numerous WLs have addressed me by that term but meant nothing to me at all, especially when they call you by that term during bonking. I always saw that as part of the script. This is the only time it felt different to me.

Anyway, I spent the whole morning surfing the net and by chance came across a video montage of her and her bf in China. It was actually a compilation of some of her photos and a few photos of her bf. The title of her montage was "我的老公". The video montage was posted sometime in March last year. Call it fate or twisted irony, her bf in China and I share the same Chinese name. Sheesh. Looks like we have a few things in common.

After seeing the photo of her and her bf on the net, it felt like my heart stopped beating altogether. Well to be fair to her, I cannot confirm whether they are still together now as the video montage was posted about a year and a half ago. However, I have a strong suspicion that they are. Whatever the case may be, despite the hurt when I saw that montage, it has helped strengthened my resolve somewhat.

It is like that one lah... anyway, 老公 is a loosely used term for them. Most of the WLs I haf remained in ctc with all have lovers or HB at home mah.. Some of the were quite open with me on this while others told me only when they went back.

Maybe u reminded her of the 老公 so everytime she call u by name, it is like calling her hubby. Some of these village girls are strangely attracted to their LOVE... They can die and kill for them.

Then again, remember it cost only $1K RMB to get someone to kill another for you in some parts of china...The killer will juz escape to another place, pay off the police in the small county to write him off as dead after a while, get a new Hu Kou and go back to life as normal. (So long as it was not a sensational case, such ** can be processed for a fee)

That is why in PRC, money and power talks. U have money, u have connections... heh heh

Anyway, my ZH GF juz sms me *translated* "Honey, I have urgent matters. Call me". I off my phone and will reply her later. The last time she told me this a few months ago, it was relating to $$ and I did help her then... still thinking maybe I should not have..

Anyway, these montages are sometime good as I see how they are in recent months (whether they are happy) and haiz...

Okie, back to work and chiong COMEX for IT gears later..

[aces68]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Anyway, my ZH GF juz sms me *translated* "Honey, I have urgent matters. Call me". I off my phone and will reply her later. The last time she told me this a few months ago, it was relating to $$ and I did help her then... still thinking maybe I should not have....

this is confirmed $$$$ matter already.
The last time I received such SMS from my PRC, I called back and she ask for money to send father to old folks home ....
Actually what she said was "I would like to send my father to old folks home but short of money, I need another $2000. Can you help ?"
Anyway, I said I no money now

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

That is why in PRC, money and power talks. U have money, u have connections... heh heh

Anyway, my ZH GF juz sms me *translated* "Honey, I have urgent matters. Call me". I off my phone and will reply her later. The last time she told me this a few months ago, it was relating to $$ and I did help her then... still thinking maybe I should not have.

Actually I wish she would sms me now and cook up some excuse to ask for money. That way, at least it will become crystal clear to me that I am nothing more than a carrot head to her. The coup de grace to put me out of my misery.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Actually I wish she would sms me now and cook up some excuse to ask for money. That way, at least it will become crystal clear to me that I am nothing more than a carrot head to her. The coup de grace to put me out of my misery.

It will not help if you in the wrong state of mind "COZ u will cook up excuses for her ...

Trust me! I have not returned call to her yet and she din call me again so I am thinking.. it could be a generic sms to all her BFs so as long as got reply can liao... need not all juz some will do..

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

If you decide not to, for your own good, she suggests that once she sms u, dun call back just reply：
没事就好
好好照顾自己
回来了打电话给我

Just thinking, apart from the above three lines, I think I will add another line to say 希望[insert name of her BF]会比我对你跟好。

[aces68]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Just thinking, apart from the above three lines, I think I will add another line to say 希望[insert name of her BF]会比我对你跟好。

no bro, i think that is a stupid move. I am not expert but I think it will just show her that you can't forget her. maybe bro DYBJ can comment ?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Apologies wrong number......as posted below, jetlag jetlag.......hahahahahaa