Tears For A PRC Prostitute

[aces68]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Tink you're wif a very self centered person or something have transformed her into what she is now along the way.
Again, u want a kid, but dun let this WANT rule you into making stupid mistakes

bro, I hear you loud and clear

Originally Posted by ekemono

@ bro aces68,
I will try to locate my lawyer(cos he jump ship) and hook up something for you if possible

tks bro for your effort.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by aces68

these are her exact words, "if you want a child, it's not coming from my womb/stomach"..I really dun understand, I always thought that if a woman loves a man, she would be most happy to bear him a child..

Side-track a bit... I am presuming the two of you are doing it RAW with her on the pill??

Reason being: My ZH GF told me before tt she would prefer to RAW with me if she was not working 'coz the feeling is different both physically and emotionally to HER as a women.

She would rather be on the pill next time so that she can have that closeness with me.

Else, if u are using CD then i dunno, your problems with her seems to go beyond juz childbirth...can't comment more since I dun know your wife

[aces68]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Side-track a bit... I am presuming the two of you are doing it RAW with her on the pill??

Reason being: My ZH GF told me before tt she would prefer to RAW with me if she was not working 'coz the feeling is different both physically and emotionally to HER as a women.

She would rather be on the pill next time so that she can have that closeness with me.

Else, if u are using CD then i dunno, your problems with her seems to go beyond juz childbirth...can't comment more since I dun know your wife

bro, glad to answer your question as it reminds me of what she said.
yes, we are doing raw and she is on oral contrceptive, she also dun like the feel of CD.
However, she said that if she ever got pregnant, I would not know cos she would get an abortion and will not tell me..these are her exact words (more or less)..

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by aces68

bro, glad to answer your question as it reminds me of what she said.
yes, we are doing raw and she is on oral contrceptive, she also dun like the feel of CD.
However, she said that if she ever got pregnant, I would not know cos she would get an abortion and will not tell me..these are her exact words (more or less)..

Whew... at least her problem seems to be on the child bit...Good luck then.

[colins]

Originally Posted by aces68

tks for tips, bro. yes, I will ask my questions on the other thread. Wouldn't want to hijack this thread and turn it into KTV question time.
But for the time being, I think KTV is not my game, cos it will look very silly if one single guy go to KTV by himself, right

ah...sorry for the late reply. Ok, do view ktv-ing or FL-ing or KC-ing as a form of entertainment. You do not have to force yourself to conform to any standard. In some ktv joints, you can do ANYTHING with the girls. Just make sure its not sadistic. Your 120 bucks is for drinks only, as I gathered this from bro eke's post.

Like bro eke, I do not like to rabba them as well. Yes my friends will laugh at first but later they accept what I am looking for. To me, drinking in a pub, or a coffeeshop or in ktv is the same thing (maybe just air-con), really not necessary to pick a place with lots of women who want to rape you or want to be raped. Give me some dice, and I'll keep myself entertained the entire night. And yes, now learning to mindfark the girls from DYBJ as well.

Like what the good bros mention, maybe you like to focus on solving your domestic issues first? Best is not to have another party i.e. that PRC gf involved, else its may just turn out so complicated that you confused yourself. One calamity at a time, bro, like I always say.

[aces68]

Originally Posted by colins

.....Like what the good bros mention, maybe you like to focus on solving your domestic issues first? Best is not to have another party i.e. that PRC gf involved, else its may just turn out so complicated that you confused yourself. One calamity at a time, bro, like I always say.

bro colins, tks for your advice, I appreciate it. As for the PRC gf, I already decided to cut it the other day when she asked for money to send father to old folks home. As for my domestic issue, well I intend to sort it out within this year..I guess deep inside I already knew what I had to do, but just needed some encouragement and support.

[colins]

Originally Posted by aces68

..I guess deep inside I already knew what I had to do, but just needed some encouragement and support.

Any support you need, just say. Remember that what you are doing is for yourself, so you must have detail plans and expectation after the eventuality. Keep your eyes ahead, and continue life as soon as possible.

But keep prc wl as sidelines la, dun let them KC you when you are weaker. Having more friends is a better bet. At least the most they do is to KC you some beer money.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by aces68

bro colins, tks for your advice, I appreciate it. As for the PRC gf, I already decided to cut it the other day when she asked for money to send father to old folks home. As for my domestic issue, well I intend to sort it out within this year..I guess deep inside I already knew what I had to do, but just needed some encouragement and support.

Bro Aces, like wat actenza & bro colins said, you gotta look at the root of the prob 1st
Though you've posted a bit here n there, from what i can read, there's a big pile of very important info that's missing making this mona lisa pic lack of a pupil and tooth
Honestly, i think you shud seek solitude and then really reflect on what has been goin on for these few years and you'll see the root cos.
Also, the probs you're getting into isnt new, you're seeking what you cant get at home.......but the prob is, you let it into your house.....if you know what i mean

Sometimes in life, we dun get what we want & we have to live wif what we dun wish to...its how you adapt to resolve these probs.........resolve meaning internally......

I have 3 wives.....why????? Greedy...maybe but to me ...NO!
They all fill a need in my life...so to me, i'm complete....those PRC gals are just sleaze to me...to release the hunter predator instincts within me.........

1st wife, the one who cares for the home, family parents, child(Singaporean)Empress Dowager
2nd wife, my confidante and advisor(Singaporean) The one who controls number 3
3rd wife, my face in entertainments(PRC) and the ones that other PRCs see and will shun away cos to POWER for them to compete
and FYI number 2 & 3 are neighbours

Do i luv em all, yes i do.....
do i have a pref, yes number 2....my mind and soul mate and best in bed....

Meaning, divorce and get into entanglements wif finance etc......nah...not for me.....i'm a businessman, so everything is about winning and profitability....

That's why i never divorce, dun plan to anymore...why, cos what i dun have at home, i have more than enuff resources to fill in those gaps.........

This may be another immoral option for you to consider
Remember, when matters of the hearts affect you, that's when you switch to mental mode and do the calculations liao.......

Sometimes, feeding and caring for a sick dog may not be a bad thing.....putting it down is not really an option...why???? You did not even give it a chance
For all you know, one day, there could be a miracle and the dog recovers fully & will cherish the love and care it got from you all the while it was sick......that's called Good Karma bro.........

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by colins

Having more friends is a better bet. At least the most they do is to KC you some beer money.

Cordon Bleu Cordon Bleu Cordon Bleu

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by aces68

As for my domestic issue, well I intend to sort it out within this year..I guess deep inside I already knew what I had to do, but just needed some encouragement and support.

Why seek encouragement & support if you know this is the correct path to take?????
By this statement, bro, you aint steady yet......
KIV everything 1st, redo your own foundation & then decide from there
By then, everything you plan will be of a clear mind.........

[colins]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Cordon Bleu Cordon Bleu Cordon Bleu

eh...friend, we start slow can? The best I can afford is blue mountain kopi. So now I'm trying to KC some beer. relak, when bro aces is done with his tasks, then you bring out your bleus.

juz kidding bros, but for a positive note, at least bro aces' 2008 will be a good one.

[aces68]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Bro Aces, like wat actenza & bro colins said, you gotta look at the root of the prob 1st
Though you've posted a bit here n there, from what i can read, there's a big pile of very important info that's missing making this mona lisa pic lack of a pupil and tooth
Honestly, i think you shud seek solitude and then really reflect on what has been goin on for these few years and you'll see the root cos.
Also, the probs you're getting into isnt new, you're seeking what you cant get at home.......but the prob is, you let it into your house.....if you know what i mean

Sometimes in life, we dun get what we want & we have to live wif what we dun wish to...its how you adapt to resolve these probs.........resolve meaning internally......

That's why i never divorce, dun plan to anymore...why, cos what i dun have at home, i have more than enuff resources to fill in those gaps.........

This may be another immoral option for you to consider
Remember, when matters of the hearts affect you, that's when you switch to mental mode and do the calculations liao.......

Sometimes, feeding and caring for a sick dog may not be a bad thing.....putting it down is not really an option...why???? You did not even give it a chance
For all you know, one day, there could be a miracle and the dog recovers fully & will cherish the love and care it got from you all the while it was sick......that's called Good Karma bro.........

bro DYBJ, tks, however, your advice is a bit chim for me, so I am not sure if I understood you fully.
To put it in a nutshell, I feel that my problem is actually quite simple. I got married in the expectation to have kids, raise them and have a normal family lifestyle, I like to believe that my wife had the same ideals as well. But somewhere along the way, she decided that life with kids is not for her, but she dun mind sharing life with me. If I want kids, she says I should look for another wife and she is willing to divorce me (again, these are words from her mouth).
So the choices that I have are really :-

1. Continue as it is and accept that I would not have a family (meaning kids) of my own.
2. Re-boot and get a new lease of life.

If I choose option 1, I can foresee that I may be able to bear with the situation for a while, but for how long and as time goes by, I may even feel hatred towards her for denying me a family..sounds crazy but true. I mean can you imagine my feeling when my friends or new friends ask me "why don't you have any kids" or "how many kids do you have?". I always flinched at this kind of questions. Since you are a businessman, I am sure that you can understand that these kind of topics are very common when you meet new people in business or new colleagues on overseas business trips. I always flinched at this kind of questions because I don't know how to answer truthfully..so most of the time I just smile and said "no time, both working" but it hurts deep inside.

I think there is a big difference between choosing not to have kids compared to being infertile and unable to have kids. For the latter, I would accept that this is fate but at least both parties share the same goal and I would carry on, but for the former as in my case, it is really a gulf of difference between both parties ideals and goals in life.

If I had the resources, I would look for a 2nd wife to bear me a child and just keep the present wife and not divorce as you say, but I don't have the resources. Ironically, if I could find a 2nd wife who's willing to bear me a child, shouldn't it be that I should spend the rest of my life with the 2nd wife because she's the one who's willing to make the sacrifice to have a family with me. Maybe I'm talking too much from the emotion side.

So, it seems that Option 2 is more suitable for me. I really don't know if any bros had similar circumstances but if anyone has, I'm more than willing to listen to their experience and solution,,or if someone thinks there is an Option 3 or 4, it would be great to listen too.

Some bros may get the wrong idea that I'm ditching my wife because of a PRC. That is entirely untrue and complete misunderstanding of my problem. I used to visit non-chinese FL and WL for sexual release only. I never visited PRC because of my lack of putonghua until recently, then I found a release outlet for my emotions and frustrations because I could manage some communication with PRC FL (unlike when you visit Thai FL). The PRC became like a listening ear to my problems..maybe I also KC them a bit-lah, so they also try to KC me back. The PRC is completely out of the picture with regards to my domestic problems.

I must apologise to sincerley to TS for hijacking your thread..maybe a more appropriate title could be Tears for a SBF bro...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Everyone is ruled by their biological clock.
Woman especially.
The day will come when she'll be wanting it...maybe not yet.
Again, if you really see what you posted, you're driven by wanting a kid...not a wrong thing but wrong motivation.
There r no rite or wrongs in your situation.......
A successful woman will not want to be burdened by kids....it'll RUIN her professional life.
A successful man wouldnt want to receive calls ever so often to hear "you see your kins lah this n that"

A kid should be a result of a proper union.......no tot of it prior
Also, you were saying when people ask you....Face value again bro....why be so affected by what others say......you live for yourself, not their words

There comes a time in wants and dun wants that has to be met at equilibrium...that means nego time
Talk carefully, and if divorce is the only way out because of wanting a kid, make sure she agrees that no financial commitment on your part is required after, in binding black & white.
But then again, if you do it and have no regrets cos no love or watever there anymore, then be my guest............
If not, maybe u can go to my sifu and seek guidance will pm you his details before moving fwd

[coper99]

bro..i hate 2 say tis.. but i tink divorce is ur best bet n move on fr ter..

[glooper83]

Well, i think Option 3 is to adopt a kid (if u really really love your wife and cannot bear to leave her).

I think that this issue is very "real" and is something that a lot of couples miss out before getting married. Usually most people will want to have kids, but when? I agree that a kid should arise as a result of love between a couple and not having a kid just because it is the "right" thing to do. Having a kid for the wrong reasons would only burden them and yourself in future.

I think the most important reason for having kids is that you love kids. And that you love your partner to want to have kids with her. Not for carrying on the family line, not for face value, not for having people to take care of you in old age and definitely not because you didn't wear a cd.

I do like kids, i 've though about how i would play with them and be a part of their growing years. I've imagined myself being strict with them, being friends with them, being the Dad that i have. But this is all my wishful thinking on my part, till i truly find the girl that i love, tell her my plans and we agree, then only will this cease to be just a thought.