Mistress

[warbird]

Originally Posted by justime

Very modest of you DYBJ! You cannot be a noob if you enriched someones life positively!
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Yes, certainly gotta give props to DYBJ .... he is great! in person and with a good network to boot!

BTW, what is the present status of the 18 yr old singer? accepted your offer? or should I say has she consumated the offer?

Hi bro justime,

Yes, the BY has been consummated. She calls me lao gong in front of the other gals...

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Y I always get singers instead of KTV, HC, TN, StreetWalkers or even outright hookers????
Simple.

This is a game.
Pure mental and physical domination.
Though my methods do require $$$, its the best safe bet.

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The entire charade is to not allow them to pose anything to you, thus will always be placed in the backseat. You drive, they sit, so in very crude term, JUST SHUT UP AND FOLLOW!

$$$$$ is the root and most important fundamental of this game.
If you want a mistress, in my book, it's called personal toilet, be prepared to spend $$$$$$$
If you cant, suggest you save your money and get STs when avail rather than spending money on a shared toilet, just dun make sense............

These gals are very realistic, so shud we.......

Hi bro DYBJ,

I hv read this post twice carefully.

Thx!!

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Thanks for your compliments Bro Justime, that's my style of writing, and speaking as posted by Bro Colins in another thread hahahahaha
Straight to the point......like i told ya, me not so patient...even to BY a gal, as Bro WarBird can attest to, straight to the point, no need to drama zebra or paiseh.......like that, more relaxing...
if everytime paiseh, scared say wrong things, then machiam feeling of constipation hahahahaha

Anyway, kudos on this thread, guess bros here in this forum can learn a thing or 2.
Like they say, there's no rite or wrong way, just the way you prefer......
Result, get wat you want at the least investment, time, financially & emotionally, only this will determine who's the winner & who not!

But fear not, once they kenna KC or burnt cos they didnt read your rules of engagement carefully, there's a Matter of the Heart section for them to pour everything to......
wif many KC doctors there to help dress their wounds or maybe, just plainly, a bullet through their head lol
So, there's still lite at the end of the tunnel(for some) hehehehehe

Cheers

Bro DYBJ, if u dun mind, I'm going to steal that. It will be my motto for the game of BY, hahaha.

Good day!

[cablesnwires]

Wow, bro DYBJ, you finally appeared, and about time too!

Your post had knocked back a lot of senses in me (I was on a path of getting KC-ed) and thank you for that straight off the talk post!

Certain points made in this thread is crucial:

[1] Budget control - Determine how much you are willing to forego.
[2] Be prepared to walk away if something is wrong.
[3] Need to show who the boss is, and it's not THEM!
[4] Maximize your returns with the minimum investment.
[5] Be a confident bastard!

Bro justime, warbird, DYBJ and the rest, I have learned much from this thread. Please do continue to contribute.

P/S: For those who are into the chocolatey thingie game, I use honey as a substitute as honey is a healthier choice and taste as sweet too!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Bro C&W, no worries man.
You can occassionally still post about your happenings in the other section & I'm sure, the many KC detectors there will alert you before you even smell anything hehehehe
Worry not, we got your back, just dun bend hehehehehe

[Oceanlee]

I simply love the folks here and above all, its the spirit of sharing and Snr brudders experience and insight about the "Mistress".

Nothg is Free, and 1 might just wanna think thrice before rolling the dice with that singer/ktv MMs. As most of them come over here - is to EARN $$$$ and for many reasons, also they paid a high cost coming over here, which needed to pay back within the short period of 6 months, not forgetting about their accomodation, daily expenses here.
(Hence a BF, part-time Husband is needed)
These gal are more crafty than us got once I chatted with these singer and she replied as below ;

我们来这里是为了生活呀。。。钱没了，不会找个男人靠吗？
(she is only 22 nia)

And if they are singers/they are on contract's with the company and thus they will need to generate the revenue for them.
I shall say this game is for ppl - who make it in life (of coz monetary means)
Otherwise, these singer/KTV FLs are no dif from the majority as I define it.

So you see, for them is the "Survival" skills and they need to equip with it to KCed and dig as musch $$$$ as possible while over here.

cheers.

[ansonsohna]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Straight to the point......like i told ya, me not so patient...if everytime paiseh, scared say wrong things, then machiam feeling of constipation hahahahaha

Anyway, kudos on this thread, guess bros here in this forum can learn a thing or 2.
Like they say, there's no rite or wrong way, just the way you prefer......

Result, get wat you want at the least investment, time, financially & emotionally, only this will determine who's the winner & who not!

But fear not, once they kenna KC or burnt cos they didnt read your rules of engagement carefully, there's a Matter of the Heart section for them to pour everything to......
wif many KC doctors there to help dress their wounds or maybe, just plainly, a bullet through their head lol

Thank u Bro DO_YOU_BJ for coming into this thread. It make the best thread in the forum (in my personal opinion niah!) even better!

yur advice is very solid. In addition to bro Justime and Bro Warbird, i will also take u as my role model and learn how to handle KC matters. Can u accept another 徒弟? i promise i won't bother u at all except for internet where i post my question here in this thread.

I also promise I work hard and not be stupid so that u will not 'put a bullet to my head".

Originally Posted by Oceanlee

I simply love the folks here and above all, its the spirit of sharing and Snr brudders experience and insight about the "Mistress".

These gal are more crafty than us got once I chatted with these singer and she replied as below ;

我们来这里是为了生活呀。。。钱没了，不会找个男人靠吗？
(she is only 22 nia)

So you see, for them is the "Survival" skills and they need to equip with it to KCed and dig as musch $$$$ as possible while over here.

cheers.

bro oceanlee, can share a little more abt yur experience?

altho i don't have the capability to BY gal, i still learn a lot frm bro's experience & advice from here.

i now realise that the BY principle can be applied in gf situation. I also understand what a key principle of empowerment is: to treat yurself with respect first!

ever since that 'talk' by bro justime, i inside feel so much better and i can feel my internal confidence which is very very small begin to light up a little. i now look forward to life and won't be so sian with work & personal life.

i even confident tat i will mean someone real soon to love after learning to love myself (like that song "greatest love of all"). i will learn all abt the rules of engagement from season bro in order to shorten my learning curve.

beside feeling better abt myself, also for first time after 10 yrs, i smoke less than one packet of cig last nite. even my sammyboy point go up ... from abt 9 when i last talk to bro justime to now got some power point.

u hynotise me or wat bro justime? still cannot believe that i smoke so less.

maybe me still a little bit of loser ... but i am getting better.

[formidable]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Having a mistress, excuse me, is not a cheap thing, the entire game requires $$$$ and also, a thief to catch a thief mentality.

In this game, there is always a looser.
If the man spends more than he wishes to get the meat, he lost.
If the gal submits to all your demands and has no bargaining power to squeeze you of more juice, she lost!

Remember, NO EMOTIONS!
Just treat them as whores and you'll be fine.
Once you allow their sweetness and charm to smitten you or have a crush on them, man, you're already dead............

I guess I the looser , ha?

Know her as waitress/FT student previously. After which she quit as waitress, and joined her roommate to TAM.
Help her shift house/do her school assignment/shopp furniture/errand for her,

Pay for her hometown ticket and she is touched. Cos Mr M???(knew in TAM) sent her to airport and so I fetched her when she return at 2am. We checkin hotel overnight.(one time raw and never again cos now i understand y xbf want natural sex, or maybe my didi too small,take time to cum),

Give her few grands(at her request) to help her pay expense,without asking anything in return ,not even bedtime (once bitten twice shy?)although she wants to give /repay me anything.( is she acting?)

I dun have time for her and she demand i spend time with her(run errand/tutoring),
I find her and my expectation different,that's why we call it quits in march this year.

I love her and I want her to go the right path as she is not young soon(including her xbf-senior executive/high post in china)

She come here cos his wife found out their 4year affair, so broke off, but still pay for her/family study/expense monthly.
She like married man as they have kinda of feeling she like
She dun like singles,that y most of her xbfs are married man

Now she is back with married rich? man, Mr M??? (knew in TAM,she mention he drive lexus/forex trader/have kids/wife as career/businesswoman). They broke off previously cos "notime for her issue" maybe. She broke down when he change hp num. Want a bonk with me which I did not as I believe she just want to destress/look for surrogate. Can see she love him like her xbf as they are in the same category(mature/stable). Understand from her recently he looked for her to reunit.

Feel happy/sad for her
Wish her all the best
Told her cherish the moment with the man for it may not be long term(unless miracle happen)
She say her life/destiny is in this way

She took part in Ch U audition U R the ONE below url:
http://photos-g.ak.fbcdn.net/photos-...11382_4540.jpg

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by ansonsohna

Thank u Bro DO_YOU_BJ for coming into this thread. It make the best thread in the forum (in my personal opinion niah!) even better!

yur advice is very solid. In addition to bro Justime and Bro Warbird, i will also take u as my role model and learn how to handle KC matters. Can u accept another 徒弟? i promise i won't bother u at all except for internet where i post my question here in this thread.

I also promise I work hard and not be stupid so that u will not 'put a bullet to my head".

AnsonDeSauna, there's really no need for you to be anyone's disciple.
As I've read your initial post to your situation, I only can tell you one thing that's really bothering you and making you wat you are.
Your biggest barrier to your own life, is nottin but you.
Like I always say, 什么都是死的，人是活的
If you apply this in life, you'll find that there is nothing that you cannot understand and foresee
Also, if you're also empty, do not look externally to fill your internal emptiness, find out yourself what's making you so empty....cos if you dun, and always seek external to fill your internal emptiness, you'll never run out of KC probs.....never!!!!
The way you post you probs and then getting self KCed shows how much you 逃避 you own probs and thus, once you feel any external 感觉, you will grab it & not let go, thus your downfall.

As for the bullet in the head, to be honest, many times more often than not, the person also carry out self execution before anyone has had a chance to pull the trigger.

Learn to love yourself, know yourself & tune your abilities to make yourself a formidable foe, and you'll be the only 1 taking and everyone will be more than willing to give anything you want to you!

Originally Posted by formidable

I guess I the looser , ha?

Know her as waitress/FT student previously. After which she quit as waitress, and joined her roommate to TAM.
Help her shift house/do her school assignment/shopp furniture/errand for her,

Pay for her hometown ticket and she is touched. Cos Mr M???(knew in TAM) sent her to airport and so I fetched her when she return at 2am. We checkin hotel overnight.(one time raw and never again cos now i understand y xbf want natural sex, or maybe my didi too small,take time to cum),

Give her few grands(at her request) to help her pay expense,without asking anything in return ,not even bedtime (once bitten twice shy?)although she wants to give /repay me anything.( is she acting?)

I dun have time for her and she demand i spend time with her(run errand/tutoring),
I find her and my expectation different,that's why we call it quits in march this year.

I love her and I want her to go the right path as she is not young soon(including her xbf-senior executive/high post in china)

She come here cos his wife found out their 4year affair, so broke off, but still pay for her/family study/expense monthly.
She like married man as they have kinda of feeling she like
She dun like singles,that y most of her xbfs are married man

Now she is back with married rich? man, Mr M??? (knew in TAM,she mention he drive lexus/forex trader/have kids/wife as career/businesswoman). They broke off previously cos "notime for her issue" maybe. She broke down when he change hp num. Want a bonk with me which I did not as I believe she just want to destress/look for surrogate. Can see she love him like her xbf as they are in the same category(mature/stable). Understand from her recently he looked for her to reunit.

Feel happy/sad for her
Wish her all the best
Told her cherish the moment with the man for it may not be long term(unless miracle happen)
She say her life/destiny is in this way

formidable, Yes, you lost.
You fail to see that very basic of the entire pic.
You had feelings for her liao & what she requests, you submitted.
Now you even question this & that, thus your mind is no more in one piece.
This effect shud have been planted into her mind, but like i mentioned, there'll always be a looser & winner in this game, so, yeah, you lost BIG
If you can appreciate the whole pic, you should take this opportunity to learn a thing or 2 about what you went through, instead of dwelling in self pity etc etc
Learn from her, how she controlled your emotions, how she MIND FUCKED you, how she literally DRAGGED U BY UR NOSE, how she ended up in the driver seat & you in the backseat.
From your post, its clear you still cant figure her out but she read you like a book, thus played you bigtime.
If you really read you own post, the key fundamentals of this gal is already spelled out by yourself, just that you were tooo smittened to see it!!
She's here for the quick money, wants married men not becos they know how to treat her better, but becos they cant demand sooooo much of her time due family commitments, thus allowing her to have more men in her grasp, thus equates to more $$$$$$$$$$$$$

Exactly like I said, if you take the bystander approach, and tot like her,you would have seen this long ago, but because you were too eager to play lead role, you lost the initiative to win this game!
Thus, now, you pay the price.

[singlad]

HI bros,

this is an excellent thread but may I ask if you all can also put the english translation next to any chinese words you used so that bananas like me can understand better. thank you very much.

[Apollo]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

She's here for the quick money, wants married men not becos they know how to treat her better, but becos they cant demand sooooo much of her time due family commitments, thus allowing her to have more men in her grasp, thus equates to more $$$$$$$$$$$$$

Exactly like I said, if you take the bystander approach, and tot like her,you would have seen this long ago, but because you were too eager to play lead role, you lost the initiative to win this game!
Thus, now, you pay the price.

Bro DYBJ, you are really sharp, I like your approach, go straight to the point I believe bro formidable just lost some $$$ here, not the sprite. Just treat it as game, and I believe he will do much better next time after reading the thread

Thanks for Bro Justime, I have followed the thread quite long, and this is really the best 5 star thread in SBF

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by singlad

HI bros,

this is an excellent thread but may I ask if you all can also put the english translation next to any chinese words you used so that bananas like me can understand better. thank you very much.

Yahoo! Babel Fish - Text Translation and Web Page Translation

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Tks Bro Justime, OceanLee & Apollo for your ups and compliments.
I will return in kind one by one.

[yb75]

Great Posting from Bro justime,DYBJ and warbird.

Though i do not have the $$ for BY i think many of the things mention here can be used in alot of other situations.

Thank !

[warbird]

I like to express my sincerest thanks to both bros justime n DYBJ for expounding, in details, their philosophies, strategies n psychological underpinnings in finding n keeping mistresses!!

I hv the good fortune of meeting both of them in the flesh! I must hv done some altruistic deeds in my past lives!!

I hv also benefited directly from their intro of 2 gals for BY.

First, I had JJ whose ctc was given to me by bro justime who also assisted me in the negotiation process. She is 24, 173 tall, classy n pretty, very fair n has proportionate figure. Quite a gem. Thx u, bro justime. She is back in China.

Second, I got an 18 yo singer thru the help of bro DYBJ who literally only lifted a little finger in securing her for me. Now I know the meaning of influence n power.

She is my kind of USDA premium steak...very chio, cute, looks more Korean/Jap than PRC, 166 tall, slim w/ firm n proportionate figure. I know if I had approached her directly w/o the help of bro DYBJ, I would be spurned. Dun forget, I'm an old chi ko pek n this gal had a very strong supporter, a young Jap man who drives a Mercedes sports car n who is mesmerized by her. I guess he lost, hahaha. Thx u, bro DYBJ.

In addition, bro DYBJ also has literally held my hand n guided me step-by-step in the complicated process of BY. He has given me many pointers n trade secrets, hahaha.

Both bros justime n DYBJ are grand masters in the game. However, their methods r very different.

Bro justime, as he has so eloquently stated, prefers the budget approach. Whereas bro DYBJ employs the deluxe approach.

For me, I think I'll combine the essence of both n come up w/ my own "moderately priced" approach, hahaha.

Thx for reading n hv a great day.

[ansonsohna]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

AnsonDeSauna, there's really no need for you to be anyone's disciple....

Your biggest barrier to your own life, is nottin but you.
Like I always say, 什么都是死的，人是活的...

If you apply this in life, you'll find that there is nothing that you cannot understand and foresee...

Also, if you're also empty, do not look externally to fill your internal emptiness, find out yourself what's making you so empty....cos if you dun, and always seek external to fill your internal emptiness, you'll never run out of KC probs.....never!!!!
...
The way you post you probs and then getting self KCed shows how much you 逃避 you own probs and thus, once you feel any external 感觉, you will grab it & not let go, thus your downfall.

Tk u bro DO_YOU_BJ for yur good advice. guess i got quite a kiasi attitude & avoid risk in order to avoid heart pain. Over time, i retreat more deep into my shell. i let my past hurt make me scared to try again. I also my past experience make me no confident with life in general.

anyway, you are right. wat have i got to lose. not much money for gals to con

also as wat bro justime say, i think i shud just 鼓起勇气 & go on to collect 'rejection' in order to thicken my skin .....

wish me luck bros!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by ansonsohna

Tk u bro DO_YOU_BJ for yur good advice. guess i got quite a kiasi attitude & avoid risk in order to avoid heart pain. Over time, i retreat more deep into my shell. i let my past hurt make me scared to try again. I also my past experience make me no confident with life in general.

anyway, you are right. wat have i got to lose. not much money for gals to con

also as wat bro justime say, i think i shud just 鼓起勇气 & go on to collect 'rejection' in order to thicken my skin .....

wish me luck bros!

Kudos to you.
Your honesty to open up yourself is a very good beginning to the new you.
Remember, all humans, regardless of gender, are either attracted or totally afraid of people with a flair of confidence.

It also serves as a natural filter element to naturally shun away undesirables.
Remember, every incident in life, is a burden, you face it, the next time you face something similar, it isnt even considered a prob anymore.

A very good illustration would be:
Every obstacle you meet in life, is a sandbag.
You break the sand bag, you move forward.
You run from it, you just collected a sandbag on your back.
If one decides to keep running from everything, one day, there'll be so many sandbags that fella can never even stand straight again cos he's so bogged down by the heavy burden he's carrying on his back.

Last, remember this, every decision process we encounter everyday has 2 choices.
The choice you make there n then, will result in the outcome....thus this is linked to the sandbags as well.......

Keep it up good on ya