Tears For A PRC Prostitute

[colins]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Cro Colin, you were right about the pendulum effect. Staying home the whole of yesterday was pure torture especially since she did not sms me yesterday. Haiz...

Bro, you'll also realise that you are alone during those times when the pendulum swings against your favour. And I do not mean physically alone - you can still feel lonely in a wedding banquet where people sitting beside you are not your friends.

No call also good. Cos if there is just one sms, your pendulum starts to up its momentum again. Every little contact increases your recovery time.

Bro come out with friends and do something la. Chess or badminton or just chilling out, whatever makes you happy. I suggested last time physical exercise cos you'll sleep better.

[slider_72]

I'll try I'm not confident if I can resist bro. Hate myself for being such a weakling. Since yesterday until now, the number of times I resisted calling her probably numbered more than a hundred. Each time I thought of calling her and my hand reached for my phone but each time I touched my phone, I had to tell myself to back off.

Previously I never believed in past lives and things like that, but now I am kind of convinced such things probably existed. I probably owed her a huge emotional debt in our previous life and I am now repaying my debt. There can be no other explanation why I feel so strongly for a person I've only known for 2 months. I mean I am no longer wet behind the ears and the number of women I've bedded is legion.

Many other WLs have tried to KC me in the past but to no avail, even though they've treated me far nicer than my "gf" ever did. If someone told me three months ago that I'll experience something like this right now, I would have said that he is absofuckinglutely crazy.

To those bros reading this section and have yet to fall into the KC trap, be warned, none of us are immuned to this and don't think it will never happen to you because it just might.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Previously I never believed in past lives and things like that, but now I am kind of convinced such things probably existed. I probably owed her a huge emotional debt in our previous life and I am now repaying my debt. There can be no other explanation why I feel so strongly for a person I've only known for 2 months. I mean I am no longer wet behind the ears and the number of women I've bedded is legion.

Many other WLs have tried to KC me in the past but to no avail, even though they've treated me far nicer than my "gf" ever did. If someone told me three months ago that I'll experience something like this right now, I would have said that he is absofuckinglutely crazy.

It will get better as time passes... I had to resist not to reply her smses and calls as well. It was tough in the beginning but now, I juz smirk when I do that.

Past life debt.. maybe BUT if so life will sort it self out... Like in the shows, if circumstances like her work/attitude in this lifetime does not allow u to repay the debt... u still have the next lifetime.

Dun start what you cannot end... and if you oops that and started something, end it before it grows to such proportions that it delibitates u.

I dunno how u do it but I always ask myself the following when I feel my will weakening a few weeks back.

* Is there a future for both of u, to live as a family? R u able to meet all her needs
* If she is like some of the Wls I know, they will continue to be my friends in the future even if they get married. Can you take that?
* Her experience with Comsex may make her doubt you and become extremely sensitive and untrusting of u in future.. can you take this constant distrust?
* Most impt, can you stop cheonging for her!!

[colins]

Bro, this is probably your worst period, but its ok, it will be over. This is what cold turket is like, esp when you feel that its your responsibility to continue to care for her and she is still so innocently uninformed of your change of heart.

I do not think you're a weakling, you already said everyone is prone to such failings. In such matters, there is no heroism, nothing to make you proud of. Your battle is with the man in you, if you win, the man in you becomes a new stronger person.

During any process to be stronger, you will definitely feel weak. Remember your first SOC? If you feel strong and confident while you take the test, then its a test not worthy of your standard.

If I tell you 3 months later you will get to experience this all over again, you better tell me I'm fucking crazy and MEAN it this time. haha...

[PRC Rammer]

Originally Posted by slider_72

I'll try I'm not confident if I can resist bro. Hate myself for being such a weakling. Since yesterday until now, the number of times I resisted calling her probably numbered more than a hundred. Each time I thought of calling her and my hand reached for my phone but each time I touched my phone, I had to tell myself to back off.

Previously I never believed in past lives and things like that, but now I am kind of convinced such things probably existed. I probably owed her a huge emotional debt in our previous life and I am now repaying my debt. There can be no other explanation why I feel so strongly for a person I've only known for 2 months. I mean I am no longer wet behind the ears and the number of women I've bedded is legion.

Many other WLs have tried to KC me in the past but to no avail, even though they've treated me far nicer than my "gf" ever did. If someone told me three months ago that I'll experience something like this right now, I would have said that he is absofuckinglutely crazy.

To those bros reading this section and have yet to fall into the KC trap, be warned, none of us are immuned to this and don't think it will never happen to you because it just might.

If just repaying emotional debt should be easy than financial debt you must taken good care of your WL during her 2 months here.
I went through this KC trap already when my PRC WL ask me for RMB 250,000 that is SGD 50,000 to open a Chongqing steamboat restaurant in China but I never remit a single to her

Why don't you tell that you are bankrupt and on surface you look rich
but in fact you are empty shell meaning more no money to give her

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by PRC Rammer

If just repaying emotional debt should be easy than financial debt you must taken good care of your WL during her 2 months here.
I went through this KC trap already when my PRC WL ask me for RMB 250,000 that is SGD 50,000 to open a Chongqing steamboat restaurant in China but I never remit a single to her

Why don't you tell that you are bankrupt and on surface you look rich
but in fact you are empty shell meaning more no money to give her

钱债易还，情债难还。

If she came up front and asked me for money, then it would be easier for me to let go already. If that happens, then it would be clearer than day that she is in it only for the money. But now, I am still giving her the benefit of a doubt. That is far worse in my view.

[aces68]

Originally Posted by slider_72

钱债易还，情债难还。

If she came up front and asked me for money, then it would be easier for me to let go already. If that happens, then it would be clearer than day that she is in it only for the money. But now, I am still giving her the benefit of a doubt. That is far worse in my view.

bro, sometimes they may not ask you directly for money. It could be hinted. Why dun you spend some time and reflect on the time you had with her and the conversations, for example:-

1. Did she ever mention any of her friends who are "bao" by some guy and how much this guy is paying the friend ?
2. Did she ever mention some guy offer to "bao" her at such and such price but she reject ?
3. Did she ever mention about gifts which her friends receive from other guys ?

Sometimes when the WL says such things, we get the false impression that she is different from other gers because she doesn't want such gifts or want to be "bao" by other guys.

On the other hand, why need to mention these at all unless she want to hint something..to me, it is a sign to hint or fish whether you are willing to give similar gifts or make you feel guilty that you did not "bao" her, finally, you end up redeeming your guilt by doing things or offering money when her family is in "trouble".

hope it helps your recovery ..

[justl00king]

Originally Posted by slider_72

钱债易还，情债难还。

If she came up front and asked me for money, then it would be easier for me to let go already. If that happens, then it would be clearer than day that she is in it only for the money. But now, I am still giving her the benefit of a doubt.That is far worse in my view.

Bro,

The clever ones never ask for money directly. They will always have a way for you to part with your $. These type are the ones you should more be wary of!

Never give benefit of doubt.Always be on defence unless proven otherwise if you get my drift. If this continues and you still can't decide end up will pay more tution fees.

[justl00king]

Originally Posted by PRC Rammer

I went through this KC trap already when my PRC WL ask me for RMB 250,000 that is SGD 50,000 to open a Chongqing steamboat restaurant in China but I never remit a single to her

Smart bro,

They thinks every Sinkee owns our own $ printing company?

S$50K! Loco...

[wodemama]

Originally Posted by justl00king

Never give benefit of doubt.Always be on defence unless proven otherwise if you get my drift. If this continues and you still can't decide end up will pay more tution fees.

I feel this is something every one of us should take note. As this will only lead to the doors opened for KC to step in.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by wodemama

I feel this is something every one of us should take note. As this will only lead to the doors opened for KC to step in.

actually l tink when we give them the benefit of doubt on our behalf, it is jus like creatin excuses for them for their doubts and grey areas. Can say like we are self deceiving ourselves lor.

[wodemama]

Originally Posted by longwinter

actually l tink when we give them the benefit of doubt on our behalf, it is jus like creatin excuses for them for their doubts and grey areas. Can say like we are self deceiving ourselves lor.

Yup, we know that most of these WL came here for 1 sole purpose only which is MONEY. We know that they are lying but should to deceive ourself by saying" nah maybe shes different from the rest". But every one is different from one another but they all have the same mentality. they did not came here to find love!

[aces68]

Originally Posted by aces68

bro ekemono; no, i did not go meet her.
i just replied "嗯，知道了" according to bro DYBJ tip.
I think she was quite stunned because she replied "did you message me?".
I did not reply further and turned off my phone.

Anyway, my plan is to cool things down first, to reduce her expectation.
Then I will tell her that we should only be friends.
I don't want to make things ugly cos she still have the phone line which cannot be terminated yet (again a big mistake by me).

I probably need to meet her to explain things clearly, maybe next week cos I'll be away the next few days.

just to update some bros who may have followed my earlier story on my PRC gf. Finally, I called her again today with the intention to end our relationship. She did not answer but called back a minute later.

So, we TCSS for a short while. BTW, when she talked, I realise she doesn't call me by 老公 anymore, instead she calls me by my name. So it seems that the cooling off and ignoring hear earlier sms was a good move to prepare her for the break off. I guess we both knew it but I wanted to make it loud and clear.

After some TCSS, I moved to the serious talk and the conversation was something like this (of course translated from putonghua):-
Me: When you were not in SG, I thought seriously about our relationship. I felt very bad because I could not give you the time and attention that you deserve. At the same time, my heart feels very tired because I truly liked you and did everything for you with all my heart but it's not enough because you will expect more as time goes by. I hope you understand how I feel. It's very difficult for me to carry on this way.
She: I understand how you feel. Perhaps the timing is not right for us.
Me: I like you a lot, I also like making love to you. I do not want to end our relationship in a bad situation, so I sincerely hope that you can still accept me as a friend.
She: I also feel the same way. When you get well (I was sick for the past few days), let's meet and I can return the phone card to you since I don't use it now.
Me: Ok, I will call you again when I get well, probably next week. I don't want to meet you and infect you with my flu now.

So, my KC affair ended this way. I will probably meet her sometime next week and get back my phone card (actually I was surprised that she offered to return it to me, I was scratching my head thinking how to ask for it), and if I feel horny, maybe we will end up in bed again, but this time, I will pay for it.

After the call, I felt a huge relief in my soul and heart. Maybe because everything is out in the open and already clearly stated, or maybe because her reaction was quite mild. Either way, it's a good decision and I could probably still get to see her for bonks, paid of course.

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Resist it... she called me 4 times ytd and 3 times on Sat, I din pick up the calls...

Dun prolong wat u know will not last... moving on is better for both of you

Good job bro! My PRC also kept calling and smsing me over the past few days to tell me she's back in SG. Not that i am proud of my achievement but i din pick up nor reply cos i've long gotten over her. And i think once we'd moved on, we shdn't look back.. Once bitten, twice shy... dun fall for the same trap twice..

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by wodemama

Yup, we know that most of these WL came here for 1 sole purpose only which is MONEY. We know that they are lying but should to deceive ourself by saying" nah maybe shes different from the rest". But every one is different from one another but they all have the same mentality. they did not came here to find love!

ya, l tink all gals in this trade, their main focus is jus $$$ and they noe all guys us only want their body to satisfy our lust. That is it.

whatever love and etc, are crap to them, if they are not pretty or cute, will we like them and treat them so nice? Sumtime, l jus feel we treat them nice and fall for them iszit becos they look smoothing and pretty in our eyes. If they are not pretty, will we care so much abt them??

yea, l now oso have the feeling they come here jus to earn $$$ and not love, what my frenz says strikes me oso, if they so pretty and nice, u tink in their hometown no guys woo or want them meh?? Very high chance in their hometown, they have their loved ones liao.