Is there true love between us and PRC WL

[longwinter]

l do not noe if any bros here experience tis when u fall in love with a PRC WL

Like many bros, l do fall for PRC WL before.

Ya, as usual, there are those lovely dovey moments, happy times as well.

but actually sumhow deep in my heart, there is this constant guilt creeping up to me, cos l do noe deep inside my heart that the r/s between me and her is a wrong one, an abnormal r/s. Maybe the meeting place and timing is wrong la. That is why hav such feeling.

[colins]

Originally Posted by longwinter

l do not noe if any bros here experience tis when u fall in love with a PRC WL

Like many bros, l do fall for PRC WL before.

Ya, as usual, there are those lovely dovey moments, happy times as well.

but actually sumhow deep in my heart, there is this constant guilt creeping up to me, cos l do noe deep inside my heart that the r/s between me and her is a wrong one, an abnormal r/s. Maybe the meeting place and timing is wrong la. That is why hav such feeling.

All the time man, even when I was working in China.

[Darkstorm]

Originally Posted by dempsey

A story to share..
A year ago I have a friend who is 30 yo wanted to marry a 21 yo FL from Chongqing who used to work in GL Lor 8 as they were in love. The girl quit after 2 weeks on her second trip here. He was encouraged by his friends not to as most see this marriage will not last. The girl is young and both knew each other in that kind of area and suitation.
The friends said he will definitely concern whether will she look for his customers again ? will he hunted by her past?
To the 21 yo chongqing, will she worry him go to red light district again? will she believe him if he say no?
However they married, occassionaly they quarrel and now the girl who is 4 months pregant. Worry grow for the girl ...

I do hope they have a happy marriage.

May the Buddhas bless them.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

During my army daze, i had this kawan who was an introvert....he hung around us but was never really a horny guy.....so commercial farks was never anything he was very eager about......
We went to Thailand regularly for detachment flights. He was kinda the quiet sort.......we didnt even know he was dating...damn.....

One day, he just started to hand out invitation cards to his wedding....WAT???? Who da hell have you been dating??? How come we dunno wan...so secretive!

On the wedding day dinner, a few of us nearly fell from our chair.....it was one of the Thai WLs half our table has bonked....shit...all agreed to keep this a secret and never leave this table.....Imagine our faces when they came to YAM SENG!......But one thing we never dare ask....how did he know her? He dun go wif us to such places during detachments so how did they know each other.....

Anyways, heard they divorced not 4 years into the marriage and since then, he has never been seen or heard of again from the folks in reservist. Poor chap!

[Insider]

Thats the problem with getting involved with WLs .... but we will never know the reason for the divorce. Problems are already inherent when marrying a different culture person

[FL Lover]

I think that is the reason as to why most FLs or WLs would not continue to contact their customers or even falling in love with teh customers cause a relationship based on such scenerios usually do not work out.

Most of the time, the guy will be wondering if the wife is still doing the Fl work behind his back or still seeing her previous customers whenever her hp rings or sms. The girl will be wondering if the guy is still cheonging or bonking other gers behind her back after marriage. There will always be this suspicions going on.

Also just imagine if the guy's friends had bonked the girl before and news spread....same to the ger... guy had bonked the wife's jie mei before and the friends told the wife.... hard to imagine....

It takes alot of courage n time to grow the relationship.... So always an old saying.... Fuck and Forget but not everyone can do taht 100%. Sad.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Just came back from Kopi wif an old mate of mine. A successful bloke who has a PRC mistress of 4 years. She was once a singer FYI and now is a PR here.
They have a kid together but lately, according to him, she has been on his throat....she's been bugging him for a condo to be under her name....
Weird and he's kinda stressed out about it..........recession looming in the air and this woman can still to this..that's what he says......

Dunno if i said the rite thing but told him that if he did decide to buy one, buy it under the kid's name......no quarrels liao........just sense something more sinister that's yet to be revealed......poor chap

[kiko]

Bro: my advice is whatever u do , like open bank account,. buy house , buy car, credit card ,, whatever.. the best is to put under your own name.. Be wise. if she suddenly turned nasty, and then say everything is hers.. then everything will be gone.. Bro please dont give in.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by colins

All the time man, even when I was working in China.

that is why sumtime l jus cant help it, but will feel sad and bad abt the whole r/s deep inside my heart.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by longwinter

that is why sumtime l jus cant help it, but will feel sad and bad abt the whole r/s deep inside my heart.

You're rite bro...see, all humans, regardless of race language religion nationality profession colour all have one thing in common.
We're all emotional beings....everyone has a weakness...you can be strong but for how long??? Sooner or later, something or someone will just break that "STRENGTH" in you effortlessly....or you'll just surrender.....that's part and parcel of life i reckon

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

regardless of race language religion

for a moment i tot you were dedicating this to our NDP 08

[colins]

Originally Posted by longwinter

that is why sumtime l jus cant help it, but will feel sad and bad abt the whole r/s deep inside my heart.

Yeah, its like you're purposely taking people for a ride just to get what you wanted. But this shows there's still conscience inside your heart la.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by colins

Yeah, its like you're purposely taking people for a ride just to get what you wanted. But this shows there's still conscience inside your heart la.

haha, ya, l suppose so. l jus cannot bluff myself at all. Yes, we are happy, we did go out together, hold hands together like bf and gf, but tink deep. It is jus not proper at all. Our r/s starts from the foundation of sex and $$$. Being frenz maybe still can la.

Well overall, l conclude being in love wif working gal really too much complications and alot of issues and stuffs can really haunt u back. l also kinda bothered abt sum issues and problems back then. Really confused and feel a bit of struggle in my heart.

[colins]

Originally Posted by longwinter

haha, ya, l suppose so. l jus cannot bluff myself at all. Yes, we are happy, we did go out together, hold hands together like bf and gf, but tink deep. It is jus not proper at all. Our r/s starts from the foundation of sex and $$$. Being frenz maybe still can la.

Well overall, l conclude being in love wif working gal really too much complications and alot of issues and stuffs can really haunt u back. l also kinda bothered abt sum issues and problems back then. Really confused and feel a bit of struggle in my heart.

Actually if you think about it, the girl also knows this. But they have already crossed the mental hurdle, already decided that whatever that happens in sg is going to be history. If they have this thinking, which most of them have, you better not put in real feeling.

This is how I guess some bros who are really determined to get a PRC WL GF, can set as a decision point.

Most of the time, both dun want to have a longer termed relationship. Frankly, in most cases where bros got disappointed when their 'WL GF' stop going with them, it is to do with the timing. Bros want to have a longer relationship, but they do not. Its just who end it first. The one who end it earlier gets less pain.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by colins

Actually if you think about it, the girl also knows this. But they have already crossed the mental hurdle, already decided that whatever that happens in sg is going to be history. If they have this thinking, which most of them have, you better not put in real feeling.

This is how I guess some bros who are really determined to get a PRC WL GF, can set as a decision point.

Most of the time, both dun want to have a longer termed relationship. Frankly, in most cases where bros got disappointed when their 'WL GF' stop going with them, it is to do with the timing. Bros want to have a longer relationship, but they do not. Its just who end it first. The one who end it earlier gets less pain.

ya l understand wad u mean, bro. Seriously l tinks it jus gets to no where at the end of the day. But sumtime it is hard not to put in feeling. l do usually keep a check on my heart and try knockin sense into my big head to resist, but l tink when u are ard wif a person for sumtime le. It is really hard not to have any feelings involved la.

But l tink even if l willingly to take care of her, she might not wan it oso, cos l dun tink she will be satisfied wif the pay slip l am holding. Can she be satisfied wif jus 3 plain meals and leading on a normal lifestyle?

There will be other guys who is much more rich and better than me oso. As the saying, Bread is still much more more impt than love. No bread, where got love. Can survive without love, but impossible to survive without any bread.