Tears For A PRC Prostitute

[colins]

Originally Posted by glooper83

Wrong, the last 1 week was like 1 month for us. Cos we were anxiously waiting for updates.

The last 1 week was like 1 day for him. Cos he was enjoying/savouring every min of it.

Haha...true
dun be jealous la.

[MF101]

Thanks TS for sharing your story. I'm also in a similar circumstance as yourself, but in the early stage. Though I liked her (and I think she likes me but not confirmed), I've told her clearly that after earning enough money, to pls pack up and return to the motherland, and NEVER to come back again. Yes I fancy her, but I told her to pls live a normal life again when she returns and never to get into this line again. And that also means if I will not get to see her again, ever. I really wish her the best in life.

[X_plorer]

So how to find the 2 gals, 1 managing the house , 1 for business entertainment.. haha.. i think it would be f**king tough and almost mission impossible..

[Monkey4]

Originally Posted by colins

To me, the datum is pretty simple. Are you happy and if you are, how long do you think she can continue to make you happy. Any girl should be given the same considerations. This is the relationship part of our lives, but should be placed with equal priorities with our career and family life as well. I guess for many bros, sacrificing one for another, thinking that it will fulfil their entire life is silly. So while you work, you must also think about love. While you fall for any girl, you must also get motivation to work. Drop anyone of those, and you will become irresponsible to yourself. Cos if shit happens, you have at least two thirds of your life still going on. If you learn how to balance, you wont go into depression no matter how much shit hits the fan.

Maybe I have gone irrelevant to the topic, but I'm speaking of this after re-reading your PMs. And I really hope it helps you in any way. Do continue to update us on your situation. Nothing beats reality.

bro colins, although u are young cos only in early thirites... I must say u have all along displayed the wisdom of like at least a 50yrs old man with such candid and genuine feelings & proper words of advice. I respect and admire u.

Originally Posted by slider_72

If that happens, inevitably, there will be one day when the affair is discovered. Then what? It would mean marital strife and potentially a divorce which I am not prepared to go through. Although the sparks and excitement of the relationship are long gone, I have a very good relationship with my wife. It is not as if we are going through a tough patch.

Even if I can keep the affair under wraps indefinitely, I imagine that it would be emotionally very draining, not to mention time-consuming.

With that in mind, in my logical moments, I see that a happily-ever-after scenario between me and my "gf" is impossible. We will have to part one day, if not now, perhaps a couple of years later. It is also unfair on her to expect her to be the little kept woman without any certainty when her man can come by to visit her.

In the past, the conflict was always between the big head and the small head. Now the conflict is between the big head and the heart. The big head says "don't be stupid" whilst the heart says "stab me with that knife". Its crazy.

Bro xyz1001, perhaps we are both masochists, enjoying the pain that comes with having a PRC WL as a "gf".

Damn, I thought I outgrew this sort of infatuation issues a decade ago...

Bro slider_72, I felt the same way too.


Bro Monster.Cookie... thanks for your advice too.


TS lovemachine, really appreciate your frankness on the topic.... started reading hated u for toying and testing your gal... but along the way understood the reasons and reservations for doing so and sincerely hope u can have a good ending.

[colins]

Bro Monkey4, thanks for saying that. Your expectation is quite high and I hope I can continue to meet them. Just doing my part as I feel that sg guys are now only starting to mature in terms of our relationships with WL. I believe the bros here are doing quite well too. Cheers

[slider_72]

You guys read the ST recently about Singaporean men who went missing after a stint overseas in locations like China and Vietnam? I wonder what went on through their minds to abandon wife and kids behind to start a new life with their PRC/Viet gfs.

Its quite scary how strong the lure of the PRC and Viet meimeis have on Singaporean men. Is there something seriously wrong with the Singaporean men, or perhaps there is something seriously wrong with the Singaporean women?

One thing I have to say though, the PRC girls are quite something. Some of them can really make you feel very comfortable and cosy being with them.

[glooper83]

Yup i agree. Bro Colins provides genuine advice that exudes wisdom beyond his age. And he's the first guy to up my rep pts. If i had to be gay*, he would definitely be my ideal partner! Weew weet !

*wait long long

[Monkey4]

Originally Posted by colins

Bro Monkey4, thanks for saying that. Your expectation is quite high and I hope I can continue to meet them. Just doing my part as I feel that sg guys are now only starting to mature in terms of our relationships with WL. I believe the bros here are doing quite well too. Cheers

bro colins, pls dun say that. I dun have any expectation at all. Guess all of us are here to share and gain valuable insights and learn from those seniors previously bruised or gained from such relationships.

Cheers

[ramon]

[QUOTE=slider_72;2973526]You guys read the ST recently about Singaporean men who went missing after a stint overseas in locations like China and Vietnam? I wonder what went on through their minds to abandon wife and kids behind to start a new life with their PRC/Viet gfs.

Yes, I've gone through days of yearning for China and Thai girls that I met while overseas, but I just cannot imagine myself dumping my family to be with them because I've asked myself this "why would I want my family to suffer, especially my children?"

I've got an uncle who is semi retired and drawing a high salary as he is still a director of the company, his two sons are married and one teenage daughter that probably got her own life to deal with. The wife is simple minded, been a housewife since married and thus may not be exciting to my uncle.

So he spent his free time in ktvs, chionging happily until one day the wife found a viagra in his wallet and there starts the quarrellings, the cold treatment until one day he declare to the family that he is going to Shanghai for good cos he got GF there who previously was working in one of the high end ktv.

Just like that, more than 20 years of marriage blown away, a new life for my my uncle but sadness and disappointment for his family.

[colins]

Originally Posted by glooper83

Yup i agree. Bro Colins provides genuine advice that exudes wisdom beyond his age. And he's the first guy to up my rep pts. If i had to be gay*, he would definitely be my ideal partner! Weew weet !

*wait long long

Originally Posted by Monkey4

bro colins, pls dun say that. I dun have any expectation at all. Guess all of us are here to share and gain valuable insights and learn from those seniors previously bruised or gained from such relationships.

Cheers

Bros, thanks. Now I have to live up to the standard of an older wiser man. Can't talk cock sing songs no more. haha...juz kidding

But I learnt a lot from you guys too, while you denied your own pride and unselfishly posting your loads of experience (that I'm only making conclusion with). Esp bro DYBJ too, who has been cutting thru all the craps and making pointed comments in his unqiue style.

Kudos, mates. Let's continue our sharing!

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Is there something seriously wrong with the Singaporean men, or perhaps there is something seriously wrong with the Singaporean women?

Neither, I feel that this is a result of our ultra-Conservative society that is still clinging onto the traditional mindset that our forefathers brought along with them even though the times and situations have changed drastically. Values such as not engaging in pre-marital sex, having one partner, having a virgin bride amongst others are all very difficult to uphold in today’s society. Just because our country’s leaders have been able to set an example, it does not mean that we can.

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Is there something seriously wrong with the Singaporean men, or perhaps there is something seriously wrong with the Singaporean women?

I feel that this is a result of our ultra-Conservative society that is still clinging onto the traditional mindset that our forefathers brought along with them even though the times and situations have changed drastically. Values such as not engaging in pre-marital sex, having one partner, preserving one's virginity are all very difficult to uphold in today’s society. "Cohabiting is a disgrace to our families, and not allowed in some societies. We will be seen as loose people". Just because our country’s leaders have been able to set an example, it does not mean that we can.

1.) Men and women are getting married later – Previously our ancestors were getting married at a younger age, whilst nowadays on average men in Sg are getting married around 30 years old and are not expected to engage in pre-marital sex? Nature made us sexually reproductive at around 14-16 yrs old, when we are starting to mature. Our prime years are 20-30 when we are at our "peak".

2.) Monogamy – used to be able to take many wives in ancient times, so now when a partner cannot satisfy the cravings of one another, they stray. The deprivation (from point 1) results in a very horny society, but while the men are horny, women are taught not to be promiscuous, thus this results in them having a lower sex drive then our men. With such an imbalance in place in our society, it is no wonder that men in Sg are resorting to such measures.

3.) Love ≠ sex, most girls I know do not see the need to satisfy their bf’s needs (not at least till they are married) as they feel that you dun need to have sex when you’re in love. Perhaps this thinking has also carried on after marriage.

Most people find that their partners may have changed after marriage. But we fail to recognize that marriage is about living together, not just dating anymore. We are exposed to each other 24hrs a day and starting to learn many new things that we did not while dating, that includes knowing your partners' most undesirable information like living patterns, ugly sides… etc.

However, this is not to say that those men are right to do whatever they did, it is still not right to fool around and leave your family behind whether in the traditional mindset or not. Our thinking of women also needs to be changed in today’s egalitarian society; they have the equal right to have as much fun as we do. Ultimately, it might benefit both sexes if the women are more acceptable to having/enjoying sex and hopefully the men will be "tamed down" when a couple enjoys sex together even at a ripe old age.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by colins

Bros, thanks. Now I have to live up to the standard of an older wiser man. Can't talk cock sing songs no more. haha...juz kidding

But I learnt a lot from you guys too, while you denied your own pride and unselfishly posting your loads of experience (that I'm only making conclusion with). Esp bro DYBJ too, who has been cutting thru all the craps and making pointed comments in his unqiue style.

Kudos, mates. Let's continue our sharing!

Tks bro Colins........tats me.......well, not a certified heart doctor but definately seen enuff shit to be able to identify one who's in it

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by glooper83

Neither, I feel that this is a result of our ultra-Conservative society that is still clinging onto the traditional mindset that our forefathers brought along with them even though the times and situations have changed drastically. Values such as not engaging in pre-marital sex, having one partner, having a virgin bride amongst others are all very difficult to uphold in today’s society. Just because our country’s leaders have been able to set an example, it does not mean that we can.

Bro Glooper, I'm sorry but I cannot agree wif you more than 40% of what you've penned down.
Now, are you a frequent traveller? Have you stayed away from home for years on end at diff parts of the world? North Asia, Europe, North America???????

Well, in my opinion, Singaporeans are a damned over protected, ignorant bunch.........proud of their wealth but dunno anything much on the otherside of midnite.........

If you go to poorer countries, you'll understand how the SURVIVAL INSTINCTS drive those people to do amazing things..........things that even u can never imagine yourselves doing............

Heard of Sillyporeans being conned of their business ventures with other partners overseas??????? Ever heard of like for example, a China man being conned by a singaporean??????? I'm still waiting to hear of this till today.......

Heard of the Suzhou project which was hailed by our big brudder???????? Ever been there???????
Bro's stationed there will laugh at it till their bolls drop.............and there r many SG bros in Suzhou

Its all about exposure...the more you're exposed, the more you're aware of the dangers lurking around the corners........the more you're unaware of it, it may not even pose as a danger to you but may actually portray as sweet to you till you're bitten............

No need to say PRC, just drive up to JB & you'll notice most if not all that you really know there are more STREETSMART than our typical dude on the street.

[Wooden_Handle]

Lets say whatever con it is pre-disposed by the greed of the individual, as the con-ppl have all kinds of trick, and they can just choose the right medicine for the right guy.