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Originally Posted by pearlnjewel
Hi bro, how old are you?
I can relate to you. I'm living a double life like you too haha. No one knows my double life except my friends and I go to siam diu and ktv together. There is nothing we can do now except to become the type of girls they want. They want strong character, good at articulating and they must like you. The last point is subjective depending on each girl preference, be yourself and as one bro here shared, always be selfless and no expectation of sex, only treat them as friend. If the girl get closer to become gf eventually give sex good.
The truth is likely you can't easily get sex from normal girl in today environment. I have no manual for that too. Just focus on doing what you like in your career. You may find out tomorrow that you have stage 4 cancer and left with months to live. Enjoy today and do what you want, go out with friends.
I can say I slowly got used to become OK with not having gf since I am nearing 30s soon. I am sure many brow here struggle everyday. But doesnt mean any girl has to give sex. Go massage parlour or prostitute if really cannot tahan. Better than being malign for crime.
Technology has made girls assume supremacy in today's courting, they see many guys like their profile or chat them up and they want to run. If one day the girl find out that in their lifetime there is only one guy chatting the girl up it will become supply and demand, even if that only guy is normal like you and I, the girl will like you because supply and demand. There are too many choices for the girls nowadays. They want guys to stand out.
Also it is like a numbers game, selling to 100 girls maybe you lucky you will get only one sale. Its tough work. Everyday have to follow up make sure the girl remembers you. It's like an art in courtship. Slowly you will find the way.
I try to stop going to prostitute because the reward screws the mind to become less confident with normal girls. I don't know why is that for me. Unless I realise I am on hyperactive overdrive mode due to no sex for too long then I will visit massage girls once in a while. When hyperactive mood due to no sex sometimes will say wrong things.
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At least you got friends to go Siam Diu/KTV and chiong with. I'm doing it alone because my circle of friends aren't that sort of people, they're fairly successful in their lives, all happy with their partners and settling down. Haha I don't stereotype what a girl wants, I just know that I'm not their type and I'm not lucky enough to find someone who can accept me for who I am. Yea well, I have a handful of platonic female friends, experience have taught me not to stray beyond that zone with them. So I satisfy my biological needs with FLs.
Yea, focusing on my career is the name of the game (: Haha, I no longer go out much with my friends since I'm not on similar wavelengths with them, and I'm most usually the 3rd/5th/7th wheel when we all hang out together.
I'm nearing 30 as well haha! Yea I agree, I do frequent FLs but they're getting really expensive and limited no thanks to Covid19.
Haha, I'm not really bothered with the art anymore. Being hurt and burnt too many times already. I think I'll just be satisfy that at least I'm not wheelchair bound or bed ridden and can visit FLs, and MLs when my vitamin M allows.