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There's this very fine invisible line of a platonic friendship between a female & a male.
Once this invisible line is CROSSED, nothing can ever be the same again.
So when faced wif such a dilemma, b4 u do anything, u hv to forcefully ask urself, is he/she better as a friend or more?
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Indeed a super thin line.
Just a sentence without thinking.
He is married n tho we are great friends we are incompatible as romantic partners. Morally i don't break ppl's family so i never see him beyond a gd friend. I see it so clearly, have assumed he thinks the same. No wonder people say before sex happens men don't think clearly where women are thinking clearly, reverse happens after sex happens.
Indeed a super thin line.
Just a sentence without thinking.
He is married n tho we are great friends we are incompatible as romantic partners. Morally i don't break ppl's family so i never see him beyond a gd friend. I see it so clearly, have assumed he thinks the same. No wonder people say before sex happens men don't think clearly where women are thinking clearly, reverse happens after sex happens.
Everything is MANAGEABLE!
Remember tat.
Even if he's married wif a family & ur not, as long as the mind is clear & objectives r the same for both parties, then there's still lite at the end of the tunnel for both without the DANGER of breaking up any family.
The danger only happens when 1 party wants the other party for oneself, tats when a family will be broken or when all hell breaks loose!
It is very very possible still!
Tested, proven, living it, shared it, that bro also living it
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On a personal situation, I felt abit sad. We have been great friends n after the "I feel like hugging u" comment, its kind of hard to continue to hangout alone or text too much.
Had a similar situation ... 1 nite while we were alone in her room ... while happily chatting .. she sudden lean over to my lap and gave me a hearty hug around my waist .. I frozed and was taken aback by her sudden surprised move. . From there on I back out and reduced the frequency of meeting up. And when we do meet .. we meet up in open public and nvr to go to her place again. From a very close platonic friendship/relationship, which we have been able to talk everything, anything and at any place under the sky to now occasional meet up .. just tt 1 sudden surprise warm hearty hug .. sad .. and I know I am the one avoiding her.. cos am not ready for any relationship .. not just yet..
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there is actually no right and wrong... just narrow minded people who are unable to accept broad minded world views. Its a discussion, we should not seek to prove any rights/wrongs.
Indeed a super thin line.
Just a sentence without thinking.
He is married n tho we are great friends we are incompatible as romantic partners. Morally i don't break ppl's family so i never see him beyond a gd friend. I see it so clearly, have assumed he thinks the same. No wonder people say before sex happens men don't think clearly where women are thinking clearly, reverse happens after sex happens.
do agree on this that the reverse happens after sex happens. It was mentioned that emotional maturity is important and i think its when both parties are matured enough that they understood what it meant to be incompatible as romantic partners and will therefore leave it at that and enjoy being friends.
Everything is MANAGEABLE!
Remember tat.
Even if he's married wif a family & ur not, as long as the mind is clear & objectives r the same for both parties, then
The danger only happens when 1 party wants the other party for oneself, tats when a family will be broken or when all hell breaks loose!
It is very very possible still!
Bro, don't be a bad influence
__________________ Men give love for sex & women offer sex for love.
On a personal situation, I felt abit sad. We have been great friends n after the "I feel like hugging u" comment, its kind of hard to continue to hangout alone or text too much.
On a bright side, he probably finds you attractive! Did you quickly ask him why? Perhaps it was just a cuddle-up thought in his mind & nothing more.
I assume you guys are in Singapore or at least Asia?
In western countries, it's very common for friends of opposite sex to hang out really close without raising alarms though. Eg. we greet each other with a hug & cheek to cheek kisses to start the meet. I had a couple of female friends in college days who were really close. We went on holidays, sleep in the same bunk, get drunk together & there was once two girls plus another guy went for a skinny dip in a lake but somehow sex just never crossed our minds or maybe they just didn't like Chinese sausage
__________________ Men give love for sex & women offer sex for love.
Everything is MANAGEABLE!
Remember tat.
Even if he's married wif a family & ur not, as long as the mind is clear & objectives r the same for both parties, then there's still lite at the end of the tunnel for both without the DANGER of breaking up any family.
The danger only happens when 1 party wants the other party for oneself, tats when a family will be broken or when all hell breaks loose!
It is very very possible still!
Tested, proven, living it, shared it, that bro also living it
cannot lah bro, risk too high
like u say "all hell break loose" is a v possible outcome!
Had a similar situation ... 1 nite while we were alone in her room ... while happily chatting .. she sudden lean over to my lap and gave me a hearty hug around my waist .. I frozed and was taken aback by her sudden surprised move. . From there on I back out and reduced the frequency of meeting up. And when we do meet .. we meet up in open public and nvr to go to her place again. From a very close platonic friendship/relationship, which we have been able to talk everything, anything and at any place under the sky to now occasional meet up .. just tt 1 sudden surprise warm hearty hug .. sad .. and I know I am the one avoiding her.. cos am not ready for any relationship .. not just yet..
wow she must really liked u n find u so irresistible that she has to lurch forward to hug u! Take it as a compliment, cos v few woman would take that initiative!
Back to topic, I also find it a shame that the friendship just fade off.
do agree on this that the reverse happens after sex happens. It was mentioned that emotional maturity is important and i think its when both parties are matured enough that they understood what it meant to be incompatible as romantic partners and will therefore leave it at that and enjoy being friends.
apparently its me who think we are not compatible. He think we are so in sync in every aspect except that he is committed. weird conversation anyway n awkward.
On a bright side, he probably finds you attractive! Did you quickly ask him why? Perhaps it was just a cuddle-up thought in his mind & nothing more.
I assume you guys are in Singapore or at least Asia?
In western countries, it's very common for friends of opposite sex to hang out really close without raising alarms though. Eg. we greet each other with a hug & cheek to cheek kisses to start the meet. I had a couple of female friends in college days who were really close. We went on holidays, sleep in the same bunk, get drunk together & there was once two girls plus another guy went for a skinny dip in a lake but somehow sex just never crossed our minds or maybe they just didn't like Chinese sausage
sometimes it could really be a cuddle up thought. But many times our minds are geared up to question whether it could be as simple as that.
apparently its me who think we are not compatible. He think we are so in sync in every aspect except that he is committed. weird conversation anyway n awkward.
that probably means u both are not so in sync afterall... it isnt like what he tot it is.
On a bright side, he probably finds you attractive! Did you quickly ask him why? Perhaps it was just a cuddle-up thought in his mind & nothing more.
I assume you guys are in Singapore or at least Asia?
In western countries, it's very common for friends of opposite sex to hang out really close without raising alarms though. Eg. we greet each other with a hug & cheek to cheek kisses to start the meet. I had a couple of female friends in college days who were really close. We went on holidays, sleep in the same bunk, get drunk together & there was once two girls plus another guy went for a skinny dip in a lake but somehow sex just never crossed our minds or maybe they just didn't like Chinese sausage
we are in SG now. he is asian who grew up in the west. i have many western friends as well, hugs n kisses on greetings are common agree with u fully. but somehow my friendship with him doesn't have this physical dynamics, he is a rather cold n aloof person. so that request shocks me. u ask my reaction. i just stupidly smile at him cos i dont know what to say. he stared at me real hard maybe waiting for a response then he looked away n drop the topic. awkward silence then change topic.
hey u still rem college days skinny dip! now u think back did u wish something had happened bsck then? hehe
sometimes it could really be a cuddle up thought. But many times our minds are geared up to question whether it could be as simple as that.
serioualy u cuddle with a platonic female friend with zero sexual interest? I think i can cuddle with a man who I would agree to sleep with as well. not platonic at all for me.
14-04-2015, 08:02 PM
Re: genuine platonic friendships with women?
