genuine platonic friendships with women?

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by solarflare

LOL perhaps to some it is a high risk high reward thing.

lol like the minibonds fr lehman?

[solarflare]

Originally Posted by Edyta

serioualy u cuddle with a platonic female friend with zero sexual interest? I think i can cuddle with a man who I would agree to sleep with as well. not platonic at all for me.

LOL... well it would depend on the situation i guess... if i knew that person has a lot of western influence, then its probably easier.

[solarflare]

Originally Posted by Edyta

lol like the minibonds fr lehman?

LOL!! that analogy!!

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by Edyta

we are in SG now. he is asian who grew up in the west. i have many western friends as well, hugs n kisses on greetings are common agree with u fully. but somehow my friendship with him doesn't have this physical dynamics, he is a rather cold n aloof person. so that request shocks me. u ask my reaction. i just stupidly smile at him cos i dont know what to say. he stared at me real hard maybe waiting for a response then he looked away n drop the topic. awkward silence then change topic.

hey u still rem college days skinny dip! now u think back did u wish something had happened bsck then? hehe

Oh well just don't think too much into it. Am sure you have more male friends than worry about this.

How could I forget that dip! Well, I went in with my shorts & the gals pulled it off & threw away had a GF then so didn't dare to venture

[Intltuk]

Originally Posted by Edyta

On a personal situation, I felt abit sad. We have been great friends n after the "I feel like hugging u" comment, its kind of hard to continue to hangout alone or text too much.

Imho, platonic relationship bet opp sex tend to be ruled by a certain decorum tat we observe; any perceived breach can lead to a dissolution of that relationship....unless the party that cause the breach is able to display the innocence of that breach; eg, u dancing with ur friend and the music turn from hot to slow; do u suggest sitting it out or do u offer to cont'd on with the slow dance?

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Oh well just don't think too much into it. Am sure you have more male friends than worry about this.

How could I forget that dip! Well, I went in with my shorts & the gals pulled it off & threw away had a GF then so didn't dare to venture

pull it off n throw away! hahaha
what sweet college memories

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by Intltuk

Imho, platonic relationship bet opp sex tend to be ruled by a certain decorum tat we observe; any perceived breach can lead to a dissolution of that relationship....unless the party that cause the breach is able to display the innocence of that breach; eg, u dancing with ur friend and the music turn from hot to slow; do u suggest sitting it out or do u offer to cont'd on with the slow dance?

i think one can get away by acting blur if they dont know each other v well. for v close friends, the breach would b so glaring cos its out of the usual.

[Intltuk]

Originally Posted by Edyta

i think one can get away by acting blur if they dont know each other v well. for v close friends, the breach would b so glaring cos its out of the usual.

Think u're referring to a person being `out of character' situation right? Like the eg u've quoted.

[justdifferent]

I don't think that a platonic relationship between 2 individuals who find each other attractive is possible. Sure, it is possible if your idea of the friendship is to meet, text, call, etc. once in awhile. But if you are meeting everyday or every other day, I don't think it is possible.

At some point of time someone would definitely develop feelings. Whether you act on it is a different thing, but having emotional feelings for someone else is already cheating emotionally, which is worse than physical cheating.

They say a man is only as faithful as his options. So if you already know that you are attracted to someone of the opposite sex and enjoys her company immensely, why would you continue being her friend and hanging out so much?

[Edyta]

Originally Posted by justdifferent

I don't think that a platonic relationship between 2 individuals who find each other attractive is possible. Sure, it is possible if your idea of the friendship is to meet, text, call, etc. once in awhile. But if you are meeting everyday or every other day, I don't think it is possible.

At some point of time someone would definitely develop feelings. Whether you act on it is a different thing, but having emotional feelings for someone else is already cheating emotionally, which is worse than physical cheating.

They say a man is only as faithful as his options. So if you already know that you are attracted to someone of the opposite sex and enjoys her company immensely, why would you continue being her friend and hanging out so much?

hang out daily of cos something else is brewing, we are all adults. sometimes even occasional contact can also makes a man try initiating something.

[Edyta]

I don't understand why men would want to invest time and effort to befriend a woman, establish a connection getting to know her,understand her then make a sex attempt. If failed he lost a friend n all time n effort investments all gone. If he suceeded n the woman wants more n he is unavailable. Why hurt the woman? Isn't it better to purchase sex? Plenty choices in looks n experience including GFE. How hurting a woman he once considered a close friend make him feel good? Maybe brothers here can enlighten me. TIA.

[korean]

Originally Posted by Edyta

I don't understand why men would want to invest time and effort to befriend a woman, establish a connection getting to know her,understand her then make a sex attempt. If failed he lost a friend n all time n effort investments all gone. If he suceeded n the woman wants more n he is unavailable. Why hurt the woman? Isn't it better to purchase sex? Plenty choices in looks n experience including GFE. How hurting a woman he once considered a close friend make him feel good? Maybe brothers here can enlighten me. TIA.

3 words: selfish, ego, challenge

[Archerguard]

Originally Posted by korean

3 words: selfish, ego, challenge

let's just say i invested time and effort to befriend a woman, established a connection followed by a relationship. she raised the level of the relationship just below sexual intercourse. meaning to say, the relationship will not involve sexual intercourse and i agreed. i continue to invest time and effort to maintain the healthy relationship. one day, she attempted to do a b_j on me and i stopped her. no thanks from me.

eventually, my body language became more and more unavailable to her but we still adore each other. we ended it graciously.

how many words do you have for me?

[korean]

Originally Posted by Archerguard

let's just say i invested time and effort to befriend a woman, established a connection followed by a relationship. she raised the level of the relationship just below sexual intercourse. meaning to say, the relationship will not involve sexual intercourse and i agreed. i continue to invest time and effort to maintain the healthy relationship. one day, she attempted to do a b_j on me and i stopped her. no thanks from me.

eventually, my body language became more and more unavailable to her but we still adore each other. we ended it graciously.

how many words do you have for me?

One word: amazing

[Yakuza]

Originally Posted by Archerguard

let's just say i invested time and effort to befriend a woman, established a connection followed by a relationship. she raised the level of the relationship just below sexual intercourse. meaning to say, the relationship will not involve sexual intercourse and i agreed. i continue to invest time and effort to maintain the healthy relationship. one day, she attempted to do a b_j on me and i stopped her. no thanks from me.

eventually, my body language became more and more unavailable to her but we still adore each other. we ended it graciously.

how many words do you have for me?

Unbelievable .. u must be a holy monk reincarnation ..