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genuine platonic friendship or not, it all depends on the individual. there will always be some sort of attraction or even attachment and no doubt emotions may kick in, just how one deals with it. i believe there are genuine platonic friendships, if both parties know their limits and draw clear line between what can/cannot be done.
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genuine platonic friendship or not, it all depends on the individual. there will always be some sort of attraction or even attachment and no doubt emotions may kick in, just how one deals with it. i believe there are genuine platonic friendships, if both parties know their limits and draw clear line between what can/cannot be done.
usually boundaries are not explicitly discussed so your definition of boundaries might be different from mine.
do u have female friends that you hangout (not acquaintances or childhood chummy that u know of like forever) n its purely platonic as in u never expected more from the friendship? especially after u are married.
I have learnt this thing don't exist - a platonic relationship with the opposite gender. This is the usual trend for those I observed - start as friend, then special friend, then shoulder to cry on, then before one realizes, emotional attachment. I can understand why. It feels good to be wanted (again).
Therefore after marriage, I never go out with another woman alone. Even if it is lunch with colleagues, I will drag someone else with me or skip it altogether. If official business, meet in the office. After work, don't bug me. If a girl cries, I flee. Not offer a tissue, or stick around pretending to be a nice guy, waiting for some thing advantageous to happen.
This is why I have an excellent relationship with my wife. After 15 years marriage we still laugh, giggle at each other and hold hands. This is also how I protect my 3 kids - they have a complete family. Bros here who cheat are gambling away their beautiful family imho. Don't flame me.
I have learnt this thing don't exist - a platonic relationship with the opposite gender. This is the usual trend for those I observed - start as friend, then special friend, then shoulder to cry on, then before one realizes, emotional attachment. I can understand why. It feels good to be wanted (again).
Therefore after marriage, I never go out with another woman alone. Even if it is lunch with colleagues, I will drag someone else with me or skip it altogether. If official business, meet in the office. After work, don't bug me. If a girl cries, I flee. Not offer a tissue, or stick around pretending to be a nice guy, waiting for some thing advantageous to happen.
This is why I have an excellent relationship with my wife. After 15 years marriage we still laugh, giggle at each other and hold hands. This is also how I protect my 3 kids - they have a complete family. Bros here who cheat are gambling away their beautiful family imho. Don't flame me.
I have learnt this thing don't exist - a platonic relationship with the opposite gender. This is the usual trend for those I observed - start as friend, then special friend, then shoulder to cry on, then before one realizes, emotional attachment. I can understand why. It feels good to be wanted (again).
Therefore after marriage, I never go out with another woman alone. Even if it is lunch with colleagues, I will drag someone else with me or skip it altogether. If official business, meet in the office. After work, don't bug me. If a girl cries, I flee. Not offer a tissue, or stick around pretending to be a nice guy, waiting for some thing advantageous to happen.
This is why I have an excellent relationship with my wife. After 15 years marriage we still laugh, giggle at each other and hold hands. This is also how I protect my 3 kids - they have a complete family. Bros here who cheat are gambling away their beautiful family imho. Don't flame me.
thanks for sharing your marriage story. congrats! it takes effort to keep a marriage. i read from somewhere that one should just not let any opportunity for love for another person than your spouse. well done
IMHO, platonic friendship with the opposite gender maybe possible but need to have certain boundaries and rules or expectations. No way to avoid fondness or attraction but should not have sexual feeling. Sexual feeling will destroy this relationship.
Once both understand how to "behave", this relationship can be very beneficial. Enjoy quality conversation (talk anything under the sun n share your inner thoughts) and companionship as both will be extremely comfortable with one another.
However, if only 1 person wants more, it can lead to massive problems.
IMHO, platonic friendship with the opposite gender maybe possible but need to have certain boundaries and rules or expectations. No way to avoid fondness or attraction but should not have sexual feeling. Sexual feeling will destroy this relationship.
Once both understand how to "behave", this relationship can be very beneficial. Enjoy quality conversation (talk anything under the sun n share your inner thoughts) and companionship as both will be extremely comfortable with one another.
However, if only 1 person wants more, it can lead to massive problems.
Yes only if it works! The friendship can be wonderful as each gets perspective of the opposite sex. However it usually doesn't last, someone always wants more as time goes by....... i am tired no longer believe this is possible.
Sure, why not. Not all relationships are created with the intent of going beyond platonic. To say that no genuine platonic friendships exist would be akin to saying that all relationships with opposite sex is bound to be.... (fill in the blank yourself)... Brain drained.
30-04-2015, 10:37 PM
