genuine platonic friendships with women?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Let's be honest about it. Men are very visual animals, if your female friends are HOT & flaunt their figures, it'll be quite impossible not to fantasize unless her attitude is a huge turn off. You guys know what I mean

But then again most ladies are quite ordinary on any given days & hot women know their value

Well said bro. The scariest kind r those tat belong to the below par category but feel they're in the creme de la creme category lol

[Taisho75]

Originally Posted by Edyta

i think the friendship is wonderful. if there hasn't been too much 1 to 1 time spent together, its easier to maintain distance n over time she is mattied, have kids. I guess the feeling becomes really platonic.

You said it. Dun spend too much 1 to 1 time together. If u spend too much time together, either party will develop some feelings, then it is harder to maintain the platonic friendship. Sometimes u also need to make some reminder while chatting that either party is married. See his or her reply to see where the current relationship stand. Make necessary avoidance to refine the friendship.

Not easy to maintain when a party knows the other party is holding a candle for the other.

[kraam]

Originally Posted by Taisho75

Not easy to maintain when a party knows the other party is holding a candle for the other.

even harder when the guy is always holding his dick and mentally masturbating to the girl

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Well said bro. The scariest kind r those tat belong to the below par category but feel they're in the creme de la creme category lol

Oh.. But men also behave like that lor. They are so average but feel they are in the creme de la creme category!! They think they are very desired and wont want a platonic relationship with the girl also. . So scary also. Hor?

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by Taisho75

You said it. Dun spend too much 1 to 1 time together. If u spend too much time together, either party will develop some feelings, then it is harder to maintain the platonic friendship. Sometimes u also need to make some reminder while chatting that either party is married. See his or her reply to see where the current relationship stand. Make necessary avoidance to refine the friendship.

Not easy to maintain when a party knows the other party is holding a candle for the other.

暧昧 can be a fun hobby. neither here nor there. .

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Let's be honest about it. Men are very visual animals, if your female friends are HOT & flaunt their figures, it'll be quite impossible not to fantasize unless her attitude is a huge turn off. You guys know what I mean

But then again most ladies are quite ordinary on any given days & hot women know their value

Hot men know their value too wor..

[korean]

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

暧昧 can be a fun hobby. neither here nor there. .

Agree 暧昧 is fun, it maybe torturing too

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by korean

Agree 暧昧 is fun, it maybe torturing too

The torturing is the fun part. But know the rules. Guard the heart.
Difficult for me though.

[korean]

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

The torturing is the fun part. But know the rules. Guard the heart.
Difficult for me though.

What rules do u mean? U mean difficult to guard the heart?

[EtherC]

There's nothing wrong with pleasuring oneself, I mean as men part of growing up is wanking to different women and for many it stays through out adult life even till old age. This is just the biological makeup.

An emotionally mature man will not allow his lust to overtake his good sense or be bound by his emotions. Eg if you're in a tense business meeting with some tempers flaring, an emotionally mature person will seek to take a breather and meet later when all the parties have cooler heads. Similarly an emotionally mature man will evaluate calmly if the cost of coitus is worth the risk of losing a friend or in worse situations; losing one's reputation.

I wager it may be difficult for men whose social circles are mostly composed of other men. Its much easier if you've more interaction with women, you'll sort of become desensitized to it. Also its much more clear cut for the ladies because once you've been friend-zoned it typically means you're really just a bro to them.

Originally Posted by kraam

Let's say even if a man is emotionally mature, but is secretly attracted to the lady friend with whom he maintains a respectful, platonic relationship with. He is still gonna go home and masturbate to her facebook pics or thinking of her.

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by korean

What rules do u mean? U mean difficult to guard the heart?

Right. Heart.. Not for the faint hearted.

[solarflare]

Originally Posted by EtherC

There's nothing wrong with pleasuring oneself, I mean as men part of growing up is wanking to different women and for many it stays through out adult life even till old age. This is just the biological makeup.

An emotionally mature man will not allow his lust to overtake his good sense or be bound by his emotions. Eg if you're in a tense business meeting with some tempers flaring, an emotionally mature person will seek to take a breather and meet later when all the parties have cooler heads. Similarly an emotionally mature man will evaluate calmly if the cost of coitus is worth the risk of losing a friend or in worse situations; losing one's reputation.

I wager it may be difficult for men whose social circles are mostly composed of other men. Its much easier if you've more interaction with women, you'll sort of become desensitized to it. Also its much more clear cut for the ladies because once you've been friend-zoned it typically means you're really just a bro to them.

very well said. We are not animals.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

Oh.. But men also behave like that lor. They are so average but feel they are in the creme de la creme category!! They think they are very desired and wont want a platonic relationship with the girl also. . So scary also. Hor?

Pai seh, just came home nia...missed all ur posts.
So poor thing ah, must be very lonely hor, boh nung ai whole day at home hv to turn to forum to kill time hahahahaha

Dunno lor, men who got more than 1 wife under a roof undesirable.
Man who play women....playboy lor
Man got $$$$ how ordinary......woman still want
What's the term for this ah?

Dunno lor, women hv many sex partners called what?
Women who get USED by many men n still unable to get married called what?
Women who got no money no career no stature need to sell themselves called what?
Women got no life need to turn to virtual to feed their empty shell called what ah?

Wakaka

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Very very well said!

Originally Posted by EtherC

There's nothing wrong with pleasuring oneself, I mean as men part of growing up is wanking to different women and for many it stays through out adult life even till old age. This is just the biological makeup.

An emotionally mature man will not allow his lust to overtake his good sense or be bound by his emotions. Eg if you're in a tense business meeting with some tempers flaring, an emotionally mature person will seek to take a breather and meet later when all the parties have cooler heads. Similarly an emotionally mature man will evaluate calmly if the cost of coitus is worth the risk of losing a friend or in worse situations; losing one's reputation.

I wager it may be difficult for men whose social circles are mostly composed of other men. Its much easier if you've more interaction with women, you'll sort of become desensitized to it. Also its much more clear cut for the ladies because once you've been friend-zoned it typically means you're really just a bro to them.

[ANowhereMan]

Originally Posted by Edyta

do u have female friends that you hangout (not acquaintances or childhood chummy that u know of like forever) n its purely platonic as in u never expected more from the friendship? especially after u are married.

I think there is always a fine line, that everyone will be tempted to cross. Lust is a very powerful emotion, and if given the right trigger, it will naturally flow, like all things. Such is the fear, such is the flirtatious temptations