Can a man and woman be in a platonic friendship?

[HCKing]

guys will cheong after the girls they like, if they only treating u as platonic friends then better dun enter into a r/s with them as most prob they wont treasure or love u much one lah.

[EatPrayLove]

Originally Posted by HCKing

guys will cheong after the girls they like, if they only treating u as platonic friends then better dun enter into a r/s with them as most prob they wont treasure or love u much one lah.

there are too many factors that we are still platonic....

1) we know deep down that we aren't each other type. be it physical or character wise. he is just way too guai for me....

2) he has this on-off gf for a few yrs. though it's currently off if i am correct since last yr jan or feb till now. and mine case, I was badly wounded and not in the right state emotionally to get attached.

3) no one wants to break the friendship. friends can last forever, but not lovers. once we are together, it will complicate things even further as we move in the same circle and right now, there is too many problems at hand with one of the friend in the circle.

anyway, though i really hate doing this, but i have been avoiding him since after Christmas till now. the only time we did chat was when we have things to discuss about the friend. just some simple exchanging of update on the friend and exchanging of advice for that friend. think this is the best thing to do before i can really sort out what I want, my thoughts and my feelings.

[acidicavex]

Originally Posted by EatPrayLove

there are too many factors that we are still platonic....

1) we know deep down that we aren't each other type. be it physical or character wise. he is just way too guai for me....

2) he has this on-off gf for a few yrs. though it's currently off if i am correct since last yr jan or feb till now. and mine case, I was badly wounded and not in the right state emotionally to get attached.

3) no one wants to break the friendship. friends can last forever, but not lovers. once we are together, it will complicate things even further as we move in the same circle and right now, there is too many problems at hand with one of the friend in the circle.

anyway, though i really hate doing this, but i have been avoiding him since after Christmas till now. the only time we did chat was when we have things to discuss about the friend. just some simple exchanging of update on the friend and exchanging of advice for that friend. think this is the best thing to do before i can really sort out what I want, my thoughts and my feelings.

If he is not attach i think you are doing the wrong thing by avoiding him.

[SushiJiro]

Originally Posted by EatPrayLove

3) no one wants to break the friendship. friends can last forever, but not lovers. .

I agree with this.

It is a trade-off if you would to pursue this further- you might gain the Mr. Right of your life or end up losing a good friendship if things don't work out.

But listen to your heart - if something tells you this person is right for you, i suggest you give it a shot.

[Androgynous]

Originally Posted by EatPrayLove

anyway, though i really hate doing this, but i have been avoiding him since after Christmas till now. the only time we did chat was when we have things to discuss about the friend. just some simple exchanging of update on the friend and exchanging of advice for that friend. think this is the best thing to do before i can really sort out what I want, my thoughts and my feelings.

agree with your decision. stay strong in the meantime

[Odin00]

People think too much. Platonic r/s is mutual. If one person ask is it possible, its no more platonic.

[centvin]

i tot i have such relationship b4 but we ended up having xxx

[EatPrayLove]

Originally Posted by acidicavex

If he is not attach i think you are doing the wrong thing by avoiding him.

acid kor, I am too damage to get into a r/s with him. like i said, he is totally not my type. too guai for my liking. i don't want to get into a r/s that is going nowhere. if you get what I mean? i like him as a friend too. and I really cherish him more as a friend.

Originally Posted by SushiJiro

I agree with this.

It is a trade-off if you would to pursue this further- you might gain the Mr. Right of your life or end up losing a good friendship if things don't work out.

But listen to your heart - if something tells you this person is right for you, i suggest you give it a shot.

lol
the problem is, i can't stop thinking about him and I know that he ain't Mr Right. our character are just worlds apart. I look for similarity in a r/s, not differences.

Originally Posted by Androgynous

agree with your decision. stay strong in the meantime

thank you.

Originally Posted by Odin00

People think too much. Platonic r/s is mutual. If one person ask is it possible, its no more platonic.

the thing here is, no one is asking anything.
we knew things are different but just trying to avoid it at all cost to jeopardize the friendship.

Originally Posted by centvin

i tot i have such relationship b4 but we ended up having xxx

ok.... that's like so weird and out of nowhere. but honestly, I cannot imagine myself having sex with him. it's just so damn weird lor. your post makes me realize that I have no sexual desire for him. which is a good thing I guess. makes it more easier for me to stop thinking of him.

[CookiesLover]

Now loving someone not supposed to be?

[ahpui99]

Possible to be platonic. But be clear on what you want. If he reject, then wish him well and then move on.

I did date one of my good friends before but it did not end up well. My other friends did marry their best friend though.

See luck and see fate....

[BiRd13]

I think that's possible.
At least for me, I have this platonic friend (gal) who we knew each other for about 15yrs or so. We share with each other happiness, sadness etc... We do have intimacy before, but not into sex. Most is heavy petting... We both now married, and we still go out together, and even travel together...
So I believe there is, if one can really control his/her feeling