It is worth forsake everything in singapore and join her in china to start a new life

[colins]

wah now I understand it less. Chinese version better.

We (WL) have no match for you because you see us in the worst possible light. We can't lie to you because we can never be as worst as what you think of us and reacted (accordingly in that light) against us. Lucky I am clever, having to choose to be on your side instead of against you. You know all our tactics and use more tactics than us, how can we ever KC trick you? We can only KC guys who think of us in the positive light, guys who treat us as a fellow human being.

Hope that helps.

[DO_I_BJ]

to clarify im not a clone . thank you.

[colins]

1.) I have been away from this section of the forum for quite some time now. Is there a clone DIBJ or is it just bro DYBJ?

They are 2 person.

2.) Bro collins, your advice seems spot on as usual. Maybe can advice me on my career. Being 6 months unemployed without direction is terrible.

Anytime bro. I actually did that 6 months ago if you remember. I am here again.

3.) Ts, i was once in your shoe albeit for a very short period of time. I almost wanted to take up a job posting in China even though i did not have an interest in it just so that i could be in China with her.

I also advised you on this point, in fact at a greater length. Key thing is, decide which one is more important, career or girl. Dun do it to lie to yourself that you will be get both. Remember when I asked you if you are there for her, and she leaves you, what will you do?

There were so many plus factors for me, career wise: China is a growing market, many people going there to advance their careers.

This statement is an escape, as it was 6 months ago. If you lack employability here in SG, think about your opportunity over there. Be very very realistic lo.

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by colins

[I]1.) I also advised you on this point, in fact at a greater length. Key thing is, decide which one is more important, career or girl. Dun do it to lie to yourself that you will be get both. Remember when I asked you if you are there for her, and she leaves you, what will you do?

This statement is an escape, as it was 6 months ago. If you lack employability here in SG, think about your opportunity over there. Be very very realistic lo.

I remember you n dybj telling me to focus on career first, girls comes later. But thinking didn't help. I just bonked myself silly till i realised that what i had for her wasn't love and there were so much more better girls out there. For this i have to thank a SG fl for restoring the faith in me, and also giving me a very good time.

I mean when i thought about going to china, i had come across an ad for an mnc hiring positions for China. Its not entirely a baseless idea that i would like to go china and find work. But its also true that i may not get hired too..

In any case, its over. China mei meis all look good no doubt, but once inside and getting naked, you see the push up bra the heavy make up. All deceit and lies from the very beginning! lols..

[colins]

Originally Posted by glooper83

I remember you n dybj telling me to focus on career first, girls comes later. But thinking didn't help. I just bonked myself silly till i realised that what i had for her wasn't love and there were so much more better girls out there. For this i have to thank a SG fl for restoring the faith in me, and also giving me a very good time.

I mean when i thought about going to china, i had come across an ad for an mnc hiring positions for China. Its not entirely a baseless idea that i would like to go china and find work. But its also true that i may not get hired too..

The very basis of finding work is for your career, without anything else resembling a relationship. At any point of time where working in China is used to switch on certain options, or to give you a likelihood of hope for your relationship, no matter its 1% or 99%, you already mixed up your life for something that is so transient you will regret it 99% when things dun go your way.

Bro I say this not becos you still harbour the thoughts to go china for the girl, I say this becos the reason you still can't settle down with a proper career is related to that exact problem. If you cannot find out why you do not have a career, you tend to deviate everything you have a new focus in life.

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by colins

Bro I say this not becos you still harbour the thoughts to go china for the girl, I say this becos the reason you still can't settle down with a proper career is related to that exact problem. If you cannot find out why you do not have a career, you tend to deviate everything you have a new focus in life.

I do not have a career because of the stupid financial meltdown that made my options dwindle. Now i am left with jobs that i do not have an interest for. However, it is also true that i am still searching for what i can foresee myself doing 10-20 years down the road. Its damn tough la... plus the stupid meltdown, i am left with just hantam-ing and see what i can get.

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by glooper83

I mean when i thought about going to china, i had come across an ad for an mnc hiring positions for China. Its not entirely a baseless idea that i would like to go china and find work. But its also true that i may not get hired too..

In any case, its over. China mei meis all look good no doubt, but once inside and getting naked, you see the push up bra the heavy make up. All deceit and lies from the very beginning! lols..

no harm going there to look see look see.frm yr postings dont think u r too hard up for a job yet so might as well go there explore and see hw. as for girls doesnt matter is it prc mei mei or wat mei mei they all hope to lead a comfortable life by marrying the right man and the right man = successful man = $ loaded man. so unless u r still walking in a dream talking abt true love blahs its better 4 u to start thinking abt hw to be the right man. get it?

[etct88]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

just for bro etct88

老哥，你永远找不到对手的，因为在你眼里，你看每一个夜场的女人都是鬼， 所以，没有人骗得了你。算我聪明，所以做你妹妹。只有你知道我的所有而我们用的招， 你都会也在用， 怎么骗呢？所以，我们找的凯子，最重要是要用人性来对我们，我们才骗得过！

Big bro, you will never find a match, because of the your view on these night scene gals. You view them all as ghosts, that's why no one can lie to you. Lucky i smart, that's why i became your little sister. Only you know my all and all our tactics, you also know how to use, how to bluff? That's why, the Roberts or Carrot Heads we are seeking for, most importantly, is using humanity to view and treat us, then we can con them!

Done bro, just for you........

Thank you very much
Krop Pun Ma krup
Kam Earn Lam Lam
10 Jews....

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by DO_I_BJ

to clarify im not a clone . thank you.

hahaha i dont think u r a clone lah u should be that jojogigi who was zapped into moderation and stopped posting since then. if i were u i will also do the same. wat 4 need to post and wait for yr post to pop up only 1 day later sian buay.
gt a feeling i will need to create a new nick soon too....

[speedyboy]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

This is a very important indication to you.
This means that your body's defense mechanism is speaking to you!!!!! LISTEN TO IT!!!!!!



My friend, everything in life has a solution!
Remember, 什么都是死的，人是活的！！！
Actually, your prob is already known to yourself!
The prob you are facing is YOU!

For a start, start learning to love yourself again......remember, if financially speaking, if my guess is rite, your financial status is only so so, so before you build a house, you need a land. Can you afford to buy land?
Second, how else does this gal know how to make money other than being a WL? If not, you have just increased your liabilities by ten folds.

Cannot let go! The most common thing and number 1 killer of a cheongster!
Let me share wif you wat i learnt from my fav singer that just had dinner wif me only a short while ago.

老哥，你永远找不到对手的，因为在你眼里，你看每一个夜场的女人都是鬼， 所以，没有人骗得了你。算我聪明，所以做你妹妹。只有你知道我的所有而我们用的招， 你都会也在用， 怎么骗呢？所以，我们找的凯子，最重要是要用人性来对我们，我们才骗得过！And this, is my shield and protection! With different people, you apply different defenses till its beyond a benefit of a doubt that there's no ill intent, then you lower your shield, but lower only, never put it down!

Remember, you are prolly saying, but she's different, she didnt lie to me blah blah....this u cannot deny rite.

Sometimes in life, good things take awhile of nurturing before it bears real good fruit.
My advise to you is, clear your head.
Yes, heart cannot rule the situation but your MIND MUST!

Never rush into things like these, especially when dealing wif a WL, cos normal laws of boy/gal relationships does not apply.......if you really must, then only 1 thing will be on your side. That's TIME!!! If she's really in love with you, she'll put in so much effort just to be together with you that it will touch you till you cannot refute.
She knows how u feel about her, trust me...so let her prove to you beyond a benefit of a doubt that she wants to be wif you FOREVER! But then again, this isnt full proof.

What i suggest you do is take some quiet time, read through this section of the forum......trust me, from those who put their life experiences down, you will see many similarities that i am confident, will aid you in clearing your clouded head my friend.

Remember, once you take this path, watever happens in the end, you will never be the same you before you met her again....this is the ultimate price for wanting to live in a dream and not reality.

Good luck!

bro...thanks...currently i cant let go and cant stop thinking of her...
like what u say....i just need time and find some other hobby to forget about her

[speedyboy]

Originally Posted by DO_I_BJ

speedy give urself somemore time to decide whether to move over or not. Don't ganchiong to decide whether to move over or not. Who knows the relationship might end after ur 3rd year? who knows something might happen in between. Like what bro dybj said. TIME. I wont tell u to give up or go for it. But give urself sometime my friend.

im in a similar situation myself. And trust me im as confused as confucious. So i give myself time. and see if things will work out or not. Don't throw ur life away for something very uncertain abroad.

But u have been with her for 2 years and u said she has been good to you. Can you state what are the good things? impt to state. But i can understand... 2 years of feelings is hell lots of feelings.

on the important date like bd or special occasion...she will auto call mi out.
whenever she go back to china, she will buy some small gift like polo shirt,perfume back for mi and some goodies for my family to eat...although she knew none of my family member. she really behave like a typical sg gf those type...until i so so confused.

[speedyboy]

Originally Posted by colins

No I am not. After I left, we were in long distance relationship. Recently just found out that she have been a kept women to a Jappy old man for over a year. Of cos she was keeping everything from me, still hoping that I will buy a property for her and marry her.

Ur sub conscious is probably the only thing that can save you bro. But then humans are like that, see a hole also must walk and drop in to taste the feeling of the fall. Live for yourself man.

Sorry to hear that...hope u already get over her.

[speedyboy]

Originally Posted by HCKing

let me say it again, NO GOOD GALS WILL WORK IN THIS LINE AND EVEN IF THEY DO, WILL NOT MAKE IT LONG DUE TO THE NATURE OF THE WORK.

and dont think abt settling down in PRC land to be a good R & R ground as slowly their standard of living will be higher and higher.....and look at their population, post 1 job can get 1000 applicants. tough lah.

Bro...totally agree with u on these 2 points.

[speedyboy]

Originally Posted by HCKing

problem is these dreams are so damn beautiful that one cant bear to wake up u see. ppl only wake up during nightmares.
ever wonder y so many fell prey to PRC gals? honestly speaking if u ask me i dare to say THEY ARE REALLY NO HORSE RUN, whether in terms of looks, charm, class, 手段, neh neh etc. all tok kong.

which is y such games r never for the weak hearted ( easily tio kC ) type.

Like what u say china ger are NO HORSE RUN.
i used to like thai girl during my early 20s but i can easily get over it due to language barrier.

Hope i able to wake up asap. Lost money is ok but cannot lose yourself...i still got a long way to go

[speedyboy]

Originally Posted by HCKing

hahaha scarly secret manual also nt enough to fight the demons, need to keep repeating chants like ' i must nt tio KC, must nt tio KC, must rem to find fark and forget, must find fark and forget' many times to cool down the shakened mind( or didi ).

best is nt to keep looking for the same gal, cos by doing so u r giving her the chance to lure u into a KC trap. rem, she has nthing to lose by doing so, cos she is already a WL.by doing so she has nthing to lose but all to gain. but for us we can choose to be a happy customer or a kuku cai tao.

the choice lies in us.

Actually do go KTV is the best...go for the pay service from those standing at gl when u simpy fark and forget.