sudden lost.... need advice,.

[hamsapkwai]

Originally Posted by sgjoey

Boss, I am very surprised. Do you only specialise in distinguishing between "advise" and "advice"? What about "save" and "safe"?

yah man Boss you getting tunnel vision or what ?

[ckyo]

I was brought up by a family(father-affair), mother sad etc.
If u want to married/divorce don get the kid involve between decision making its between the adult.

Point
1- In the event if u change job/retrench etc what will future employer look upon old divorcee(problem maker? family problem?)
2- Supposing if u divorce cant get a job, live on alimony is it enuff ? whats the condition of alimony lifetime? (sometime male pay/dun pay/default go court etc)
3- Divorce is not the end of story it could be the beginning of another problem for yourself

Opinion
Will a divorce give u a better financial life? If not whats the alternative ? Negotiation ? Let it be ?

[Mich0088]

hi Sis Candy
Well you can also play the game, just act normal wear klnky wear for like 2 weeks , go shop wif children , do use his cards if have then use it under children acct. not urs. then see his reaction.

[deep6161]

sister, most men cheat .. atleast whoever in this forum :P.. thats y we are here ..

You are not saint as well... but having a particular partner as gf is worse case.. means there might be something other than sex btw them..

In your case , I suggest to meet a professional counseller and I am sure your issue will be solved and can leave a happier life...

also not a wise thing to be single parent , cos it affects the child's happiness..

let divorce be the last option

[Raybo]

Hi Sister,


To err is human, likewise you have cheated in your previous marriage.

The fact is that you have went through 2 marriages and I definitely believe you won't want to go through the third which may not be better.

Since the repercussion involve children and flat, it would be a very painful experience to go through as it meant rebuilding new family and resources but maintaining more responsibilities.

Ask yourself if you have the time, resources, stamina, courage and responsibilities to face the consequence.

My advice is to calm down,THINK carefully, do some self reflection, judge your partner's worthiness based on personality,strength and weakness and decide unemotionally.

If it is environmental factors , I think you shouldn't jump to decision yet...

"Revenge is not the solution as it would only bring further hurt.."
"It is a matter of Forgive which is not easy but necessary.."

[tinycork]

Um..what goes around, comes around. When you do something, be ready to face the consequences, simple.

[LouisVuiitton]

I see many of u advised her to stay in the marriage for the sake of kids! LMAO on this lah !! We are all entitled to our own point of view so there's no right and wrong ! But I must first ask u, how strong is your love for him now? Are u prepared to endure all these and at the same time talk sense to him that all is being unfair on u? Wake up your idea man! If u have to, bring him together and talk to the marriage counsellor and see what the heck is wrong!
Sister ah.... Never EVER use revenge on a r/s because that is plainly retarded for me lah... That will only make your marriage beyond repair and ultimately unable to salvage anything. Since u guys are on talking term, ask him what he really want now that u guys already got kids. He is not responsible lah for me. At least should know how to wipe mouth mah.. If he can continue openly in front of u then fuck it I should say. U deserved better. Anyway like I said, if u ever wish to take revenge now on him, u better think twice lor...

I rather u spread your golden legs only after u divorced him. Fight for the custody of your kids or kid? Yeah.. Good luck to you !!!